This is the hardcore NSFW content I come to this Lemmy instance for.

Honestly, I want to see my wife have sex with other men as we all humiliate her.

Sometimes, when I want to express my deep and special connection to my partner, I will perform an act I call nose finger. This act consists of me extending my index finger, shoving it in her nostril, then holding it there a few moments as we savor the connection. I reason, in this depraved, libertine age, you could sleep with someone and have it mean almost nothing. But who, except your most intimate of intimates, would you let shove their finger up your nose?

She appreciates how deeply romantic I am.

Straight man here. I was asked out by a trans woman and we started going out. Somewhat different situation than your question, as I never had particular fantasies of or attraction to trans women. We eventually slept together. I was super nervous, since she was my first date, first kiss, first everything. In the end we got married and are living happily ever after, so I would say it worked out pretty great.

Based on your question I presume you are particularly interested in the aspect of being with a woman with a penis. For me it was alright. It is not my preferred genital configuration for a sexual partner, so I was quite happy when she got SRS several years later.

Like Jersusalemspiderman mentioned, many trans women have a contentious relationship with that part of their anatomy. I am not sure what percentage of trans women are interested in performing penetrative anal sex on a man, but I believe it is fairly low; if that particular act is important to you, you may be going against long odds. It was not something that I desired. While my then-girlfriend was pre-op, we did anal sex with me as the penetrator. I occasionally performed oral sex, though she liked to give more than receive. And the handjobs were mutual. I also topped in a variety of BDSM activities, though that is not really trans-related.

Be aware that estrogen can reduce penis size. It can vary a lot person-to-person, though. My other trans girlfriend actually had a penis larger than mine.

Treat the trans people in your life with kindness. Society is often cruel to them.

Update: apparently my wives are both interested in doing CNC. Thanks @freeusething@lemmynsfw.com; showing them your post about a Dagoth Ur CNC scene resulted in them expressing their interest without me even asking. The response from one: “Look, if I have to wear a Dagoth Ur mask to get a CNC scene, I’ll do it!”

Did you end up trying this? I would be interested in hearing how it went.

I have never tried a game like that, but I could see the benefit in letting you both experiment with new activities without pressure that you will enjoy them. The closest comparison I can think of is a time when, as a joke, I licked between my wife’s toes. I was fully expecting her to scream and recoil. Instead, she moaned. We both learned something new about her that day.

I was choked unconscious once, as a stupid novice grappler who didn’t tap out when I should. It was wild waking up from what felt like a deeply restful sleep, and realizing that for some reason I was on a mat instead of my bed, and there was a circle of people around me. It took me half a minute to remember how I got there. 😅

I would greatly enjoy more foot massages. Not for any sexual reasons, but just for the relaxation of it. I really should start giving more if I want to receive…

Two! Finally made it official this year, after twenty years with one (my first girlfriend), and the other having been with us for thirteen.

I too have gotten some good stuff from there.

Do you think you could just print the mold directly? I haven’t looked deeply into the techniques.

The pillory was pretty simple, so I didn’t feel the need for a plan. I had the pillory part sandwiched between a pair of 2X4s with regularly-spaced holes on each end. Long bolts ran through the sandwich, and could be removed to adjust the height. Most of the time it was attached to the bed, but I also made a base out of a pallet so it could be used freestanding. Sadly I don’t have the bed anymore. I need to find a place for the pillory in my new house and pull it out of the garage.

I have not used that kind of sleeve before, but earlier this year my wife got me one that fits on the head of a Hitachi-style wand vibrator, like this one. I have enjoyed it. I don’t know that it is better than a hand, but much like my electric toothbrush, it is nice letting a motor handle the rapid back-and-forth.

I have made a pillory, a St. Andrew’s cross, a spreader bar and a couple collars. I processed and dyed a big spool of hemp rope into nice shibari ropes. Installing a bunch of tie-down points around and above the bed and fitting them with chains probably counts too.

When I was experimenting with a laser cut, I made what I think is my most original design, this tag that goes over the bar of a nipple piercing, and is held in place when you screw the balls on the ends.

Though this cat toy that I made into a gag for my bunny girl turned out pretty cute, too.

I don’t have any pictures yet, but I am just finishing up a pony play head harness modeled after this one, and am quite happy with how it is looking: https://www.lvxsupply.com/collections/featured/products/bit-gag-bridle

Insertables sound interesting, and could synergize with my 3D printing hobby, but the only silicone I have ever cast was a single mold for resin.

Nice work. That’s an interesting combination of subjects. Though now that I think about it, the riddle of the Doors of Durin would make a pretty fantastic lower back tattoo.

I (male) don’t like anal sex, though I will grudgingly give it. My wife wants it in the butt. I feel like the preference mismatch for this act usually runs in opposite direction.

CNC. I do plenty of BDSM, but as the male aggressor, I still find CNC an embarassing kink to have. I am not sure if my partners would be into explicit resistance play; I am sure they would indulge me, but I don’t think I would want to set up such a scene unless it was with a sub who was unequivocally into it too.

Also, the thought of impregnating a woman is very erotic. As someone with zero desire to be a parent, I am staying well away from that.

I picked up a cheap goat milking machine a year ago. One of my wives loves the sensation it and uses it frequently.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B09P3746R6

You can also get some hooves and a cute cow-ears handband so that your livestock is appropriately attired.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B07C9R3H8X