I hope everyone had a great week! Hang out. Chat. Talk about what’s going on. Have fun :3
Just got asked if “that transgender stuff” is my mom’s fault by her. For context I came out as an IV drug addict and trans at the same time. She was more upset at being trans than me slamming heroin. Thankfully it was ten years ago. Still hurts.
For context it’s been 8 years clean of heroin and ten years on hrt
8 years clean
Damn that’s one way to soften the blow of being into heroin I guess
I took in a trans girl who’s a refuge from Florida and now she’s sleeping on my couch. We’ve known each other for a while, so I told her she could stay because her other option was apparently living in her car in random northeastern cities. So far, we’ve gotten along really well, which is good cause I have a little 1 bedroom apartment. She’s been through a lot, and I’m not completely sure she’s ok, but she has made some progress with job interviews around here, so it seems like she’s trying to get established. I’m not really sure how she’s going to find another place to live tho, rent is so expensive and such.
On Sunday, I invited my other local trans friends (all two of them) over and we all made dinner together. It was honestly really wholesome and nice. I just want to have a bunch of trans friends and to feed them all tasty meals and take care of them.
That’s really great that you were able to help her out. I’m sure that small bit of community means so much to her.
More and more people are doing this and it’s rad
cw transphobia
It was super “inclusive of all genders” for the place I was at to have “gender neutral bathroom” plastered over every bathroom and then for some cissie freak employee to accost me when I picked wrong. Sorry everybody, didn’t know you meant gender neutral (women and high femme only)! For fucks sake, I was off duty from being a gender warrior, trying my best to not make waves by going undercover in drag as a cis man. Just here to vibe not be woke in the bathroom or whatever but there’s no winning with these people. It’s gender neutral right up until my f****t ass walks in I guess (It’s not, it’s just more deceitful, performative bullshit from the cissies as usual.)
Good news: got my hair cut in a way I generally like
Bad news: sometimes makes me look like Lord Farquaad
Worse news: the job I interviewed for (which precipitated the haircut in the first place) rejected me, although it remains unclear how much of that was due to my Farquaadity
I went to a small robotics tournament this weekend and was worried that making my robots pink, white, and blue with trans flags painted on them might have been a bad idea at such a STEMmy event, but I actually met a couple other really cool trans gals there and my bots got a lot of compliments! The whole community was actually super wholesome in general and there were a lot more women and families than I expected.
It’s also starting to get warmer here which is a real double edged sword. Winter means I get to bundle up and hide my dysphoria in oversized hoodies and overalls, but if I feel like dressing up cute I don’t have many options. Otoh when it’s warm I get to be adorable every day, but if my BDD decides to ruin my day I have nowhere to hide my grotesque body.
Being trans is weird.
I love hoodie weather soooo much why can’t it be hoodie weather all the time 😤
idk what kind of robotics you were doing but IME the whole field(? hobby? idk) has gotten very trans lately and I’ve been loving it
I have the same (sorta) reaction every spring. It takes me a while to acclimate to showing skin, even showing my knees feels awkward after a nice long tundra winter. But every year I figure it out because it beats cowering in the AC 24/7 or overheating in jeans and long sleeves
made a whole 4 sandwiches and 5 little snack packs for me for work this week. this is gender affirming care :)
i know this reads like a shitpost but honestly it took me being nice to myself for the egg to crack after not doing it for over 2 decades. being nice to myself really is gender affirming care, dammit
That’s a big mood. I know how you feel.
:)
Just be sure to never stop. Self-care is probably the most important tool you can have.
down with cis
The time has come.
I apologize for being cringe on this forum before. I strive to be a better poster in the future.
Messed up my T injection so I had to use my back-up ampule. R.I.P.
Also first time going to a psych today. It went a lot better than I expected, probably going towards a legal ID change but I got prescribed Lexapro on first sitting and I am not sure whether I should take it.
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Gender has failed you, not the other way around ✨
Wrong there is no such thing
CW Voice dysphoria, Verbal abuse
For context, I’ve done some voice training over the past few years and was really happy about my progress. One night while practicing though my mother was awake when I thought she’d been sleeping and she started insulting my voice. Then in the months after she would consistently yell at me if my voice changed register/pitch even a little bit while talking. I’ve been unable to do my femme voice without using way too much mental focus since then.
Last night I just out of the blue started crying about my voice and that inability to use it. It’s so fucking frustrating to know that I have the ability to do a pretty good femme voice but I just can’t use it because of this dumbass mental block. It’s not even that I hate having my masc voice; I like having it as a voice, I just hate it being my voice.
I’ve complained about this to an irl friend before and he just told me how much she loves my (masc) voice. I understand that they meant it as a compliment but I just feel nothing when I hear it. To his credit she seemed to have realised after I explained that it doesn’t comfort me, since the last time it happened they just went with an “I’m sorry” which felt better. But people just keep complimenting my masc voice, it genuinely might be the most common compliment I get.
And then I’m stuck here, knowing that I can do a femme voice, having heard and fallen in love with that voice, but I’m unable to replicate it anymore because of some stupid shit my mother said that gave me a mental block. And I just randomly start crying about it sometimes now, I guess.
My hair is so amazing I love it AHHHHH
“[The patient] is currently unsure of her next steps” is a phrase that has stuck with me for a week now. I wouldn’t describe it like that, but it certainly feels like a callout and/or cold water to the face. Not in a helpful way either - just annoying, cold water.
[Logic: Heroic] SUCCESS: You live in a world of increasing mass surveillance, rapidly advancing face tracking technologies, in a visibly declining society in which the security state grows by the minute. Are you seriously about to voluntarily map out your own face in Faceapp just to see what a crude AI thinks is you but more femme?
Yes. Do it.
i absolutely never did the same and any data faceapp has to indicate the contrary was forged to defame medeleted by creator
wish my hair was longer
probably going to take like 2 years minimum to get it where i want
damn
Horse shampoo. I am not even shitting you. It’ll take 6 months, will smell like oats tho. Get it on amazon
It’ll take 6 months, will smell like oats tho.
so what’s the downside?
on a serious note, is there anywhere I can read about using horse shampoo for hair growth?
https://www.healthline.com/health/horse-shampoo#benefits
you could also take keratin supplements or use some product intended for humans and likely get a similar effect, though I’m sure the horse shampoo is fine.
anecdotally my friend did say keratin supplements made her skin break out a lot though so maybe the shampoo is a better move
I can’t find anything other than personal testimonials but my hair is at ass length after using it for a year. If I wasn’t going through a mental health crisis I would find some for you
Also the only downside I had was I smelled like oats
that’s literally not a downside???
She could probably just start with biotin lol
