met a different guy the day after, and 2 days later met another different guy.

I have ADHD. Testing the pills on a higher dosage rn which makes me insane (real). Never allowed myself to think sexual thoughts in public as a teenager in fear of consequences. Never dated, never had experience with a relationship.

I read a lot of resources online and I overthink a lot. Especially with my sexuality. The meds made it easier. The encouragement of my friends also made it easier.

So I downloaded Grindr. I got messaged - the usual. The meds does a funny thing of increasing my libido, makes me a bit more impulsive, gives me more energy and supercharges my heart where it beats fast til no end and so I continued chatting. Which lead to plans being made.

Might even meet another guy later today.

I dont know if im just acting out (other aspects of my life has been really stressful and overwhelming) but I just opened the flood gates and there’s no way to close em back. So many questions about aspects of my sexuality being answered practically instantly.

Planning to take an STI test at a local clinic to establish my baselines in a few days. No doubt the frequency will tone down with time. Should I even worry? Because right now, I love it.

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    met a different guy the day after, and 2 days later met another different guy.

    I have ADHD

    Such a banger way to start a post. Could’ve just stopped there tbh 10/10

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    Yes you should absolutely worry. You should test regularly and you should ask for proof that any new partner is testing. Even the little baby STIs that aren’t any big deal suck. Herpes gives you a big pus rash for weeks and can’t be cured. Gonorrhoea is treated by a big nasty shot applied directly to your ass. And you definitely want to avoid getting more long term problems like hpv, hepatitis, or hiv.

    If you’re doing the sex you must absolutely test between new partners and ask for proof that new partners are testing. Make them show you their results. You show them yours.

    This will mean you’re doing less sex. It also means you’re protecting not only yourself but all current and future partners as well.

    Also if you’re a penis haver doing mostly sex with other penis havers get on prep. Also probably use protection it’s good for your health.

    Take your sexual health seriously it’s worth it in the long run. I know I’m just a random internet stranger but it’s serious stuff so please please please take care of yourself and others

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    i would say maybe settle down on the hookups until you get used to being on your meds because it really sucks to have amphetamine induced mania and hypersexuality and then go on to make a bunch of very questionable decisions with your genitals

    you love it because it turns out it feels very good actually

    People, here’s somethin’ that you should be considerin’

    Things could turn bitter when, you don’t use discipline

    You might wake up the next day, upset and in fear

    Buggin’ out, yappin’ bout, "How the fuck did I get here?

    Who the hell is this stranger, starin’ all in my face?"

    Now you wishin’ you hadn’t positioned yourself, in that place

    Think just in case you shoulda took more precaution

    A good time can become a nightmare so often

    -gang starr

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    My brother in Grindr use condoms

    get on prep

    if you’re the bottom look up info about douching or other ways to ensure you are clean down there

    Stay safe theres some shady as fuck people on that app

    If the vibes are off gtfo

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      BAHAHA yeah, agree 100%

      if you’re the bottom look up info about douching or other ways to ensure you are clean down there

      I come from a culture where bidet showers are the norm. I know all about it.

      Probably won’t do anything down there for a while.

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    Just use protection and take prep.

    Ideally get proof of recent STI checks from whoever you are playing with, and don’t be afraid to ask how recently people have been tested and what their recent history is like. It feels awkward at first but is one of the most important steps towards claiming your sexuality in a healthy way. If someone else gets turned off by that, it is the only red flag you need to find someone else.

    Enjoy yourself but trust your gut, some people are legit weird, even if they are hot, and better to find someone else than put yourself in an unsafe situation.

    Also be careful with drugs, particularly meth, coke, opioids and benzos. A fun hook up could offer you something that ruins your life. You are describing yourself in a way that makes it sound like uppers could injure your heart and downers could be extra addictive.

    But yeah have fun, if you want the best of both worlds maybe you’ll find a few people you can build trust with to become regular things and rely less on total strangers. That is fun and exciting too but just opens up way more potential for very bad outcomes.

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      This is all very reasonable. I ask for testing but don’t poke and prod for an official certificate or date. The recent history stuff absolutely makes sense to ask, I am usually awkward anyways so I am not bothered by being awkward and will definitely ask, thanks for that.

      The first guy I met, we did use protection for anal stuff but for the rest it was usually just oral and kissing. I am considering getting prep aswell, but just hesitant since I have already a lot of side-effects to contend with and don’t want to risk more. I’ll talk to the clinic about it.

      As for drugs, yes I have 0 tolerance, especially the illicit ones you mentioned. I made that clear in my profile, but it’s good to be reminded of these things.

      Actually took a shot the first time, it was not a wise decision.

      Yup, that’s my overall goal. I am not much of a fan of complete strangers anyways, and would like to get to know people.

      Thanks for this. I do try to remain as reasonably safe as possible, and told my friends to hold me back if things get a bit much.

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        The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.

        نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.

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