Especially when most cishet women I’ve had sex with were teenagers and the average lesbian is 23-35

1. Lesbians are terrible at making the first move and chasing/initiating/escalating.“Useless lesbian” stereotype

Just as bad as cishet women so I still end up 99% having to do the chasing/escalating since I’m better at it and more willing to do so. It makes things feel gendered af and so, so dysphoric. I’m at the point where I honestly never want to do it ever again

2. The shyness is incredibly bad

I’ve had multiple women flirt with me first (and express explicit interest in kissing/hooking up) and when I escalate to kiss them, they start giggling, pull back, and keep saying how nervous/shy they are. I then have to help calm them down and wait for 5-10 minutes until they can pull themselves together. Tangentially, also met an incredible amount of bisexual women who said that they’ve never done anything with a woman before because they’re too shy to flirt with women

3. Stroke game is pretty bad

I’m just comparing to myself and other trans women here. Just less experience I guess

4. Head game is worse

Probably just also lack of experience. Hard to blame them on this given how most of their dating pool don’t have dicks

5. Too soft and respectful?

This is probably just a personal preference I guess. But the sex now is very methodical, soft, slow. Vs before where it was much more primal, instinctual, and intense

Doesn’t apply to trans women or bisexuals in my experience

6. Worse at flirting

So many lesbians just straight up tell/ask me they wanna kiss/have sex/whatever. It’s all incredibly explicit and direct. Which I understand for consent reasons, clear communication, etc. But the sexual tension of subtle flirting and the playful back and forth is something I miss so much