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Deviating from masculine norms often lead to ridicule or being assumed gay IME. Personally, the only time I can think of that I was “ma’am’d” was pretty recently, and I’m like 99% certain its because the person was expecting my boss (who is a woman) and she claimed she calls everyone “ma’am” when someone said something to her about it.
OTOH, my mom probably gets sir’d more than I ever have.
My experience has been assumed to be gay. And I’ve known a few cis women who had been called sir also.
Huh, that’s strange, I guess I don’t think about what people think of me that much. I don’t know what the internal reaction is, just that I’ve gotten ma’amed without trying a few times.
I got bullied for having long hair, very pale skin and accused of wearing makeup so I got called gay. Even when my body was clearly not shaped like a cis male I was still called gay…
Those people had no idea of trans people just I was known to them as being a cis male.
Living amongst the ignorant and people who don’t understand anything outside the binary they will usually default to traits they associate with a binary gender and assume or try to insult… Depends on how it is being applied.
It happens to cis people a lot too. Because the hunan body can take many shapes and forms.
Indeed, without any overt transphobia I still find most people default to he/hims bc as far as they can get through their heads I am. Reminding people to respect pronouns is scary, however openly and overtly abnormal I am.
Then it wasn’t transphobia, can guarantee that… It was queer phobia
A lot is presentation dependant in a lot of cases and is what a lot of people would default to.
I’m gendered as a she/her regularly but I dress androgynous now…
I didn’t mean to suggest it’s transphobia with any frequency. It’s the habits of people’s minds.
But in my example I can say it isn’t because trans wasn’t as mainstream then from where I come from more underground ^^ I would say in today’s climate it most certainly could be.