• MacN'Cheezus
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    5 months ago

    What if I told you you do not have to be loyal to people who don’t respect you?

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      5 months ago

      A very small part of people who I call friends are people, who I actually care about. I’m just forced to communicate with others to get important info I need for school.

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        5 months ago

        Well, people you HAVE to see for professional reasons aren’t your friends, and you shouldn’t really care what they think about your hobbies or interests.

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          5 months ago

          At school, it’s different, than at work, as children/teens (including me) are generally less mature, which means most of them don’t help you or inform you unless they benefit from it. TLDR: I make people think they are my friends because I’m forced to.

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            5 months ago

            Okay, I understand that, and that’s fine, everyone has people like that in their lives at some point.

            But if you KNOW they aren’t really your friends, why would you complain that they don’t act like they are?

            You can just ignore the first part of my advice (about not spending time with them) because it doesn’t apply to this situation, but you should probably still try and find people who you can actually be friends with based on your hobbies and interests.

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              Well, I just don’t want to be shit on for my interests. Edit: But, I’m probably overreacting to something minor, that annoys me, as usual. Well, Another edit: How should I even do this?

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                5 months ago

                Okay, well don’t share them with people who you KNOW aren’t really your friends?

                I mean, it’s fine to bring them up with people who you don’t consider your friends YET (because otherwise, you may never know their opinion and miss out on potential friendships), but if you get shot down or made fun of and it’s clear that there is no interest, just switch topics and look for someone else to be friends with.