Okay, so just in case you haven’t noticed, you’re LITERALLY arguing that people in hospitality should be working harder to please you without expecting any sort of financial reward for their efforts because their employers should just do it for you. You DO realize that all the restaurant’s income comes from their guests, right? So if tips weren’t required, they would just increase their prices to the point were they could afford paying them a stable living wage, which saves you no money at all, but removes all the control you have for rewarding the type of service YOU prefer.

You’re literally the type of unempathetic person the OP descries. Not everyone wants the same kind of service you do, some would rather have their waiter make smalltalk with them or frequently check in to see if they need anything. Perhaps instead of complaining here, you should just be upfront with your server and tell them what you want, but you don’t want that because that would oblige you to actually tip them well if they DO give you what they want, right?