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Cake day: October 24th, 2023

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  • I’ve started dating a bit late and let me tell you: you can’t really be behind. Yeah, there’s some generic interpersonal experience you get from dating, but that maxes out at like, 3 months of dating. So I’d put someone who’s dated for 3 months and someone who’s dated for like 6 years at basically the same point experience wise, if they’re both put into a situation where they’re back on the dating market after it.

    You do build personal rapport with a person during a relationship, but people start and stop those all the time - everyone’s on a different schedule, you can’t really compare yourself to that.

    Oh, and on the weight loss point - don’t sweat it!! Being chubby is way less of a dealbreaker when you’re a guy. And the people who do mind aren’t people you should be giving a chance to anyways 🤷


  • Fitness can be a lot of things. Health can be a lot of things. It just really depends on what your goals and needs are.

    If there are heart problems rampant in your family tree, you might want to consider strengthening your cardiovascular system through things like running or biking. Give C25K a shot and see how you feel. Maybe do some Maffetone style training after that just to learn to deal with running slowly and consistently.

    If you’re worried about brittle bones, arthritis and muscle issues when you age, try some resistance training. Your local gym will definitely have beginner courses available that show you all of the machines in a basic training circuit. Then you just play around with weight amounts and set ranges depending on more granular goals.

    If your goal is just aesthetic (also completely valid), it’s probably a diet thing or a combination of cardio/strength training that will get you there.

    Generally, I’d say just pick a thing that you reasonably like (don’t expect to love it right away, don’t drop it when you hate it atm) and stick with it until you’ve convinced yourself that you’re a “fitness person”. Just that self perception will be an absolute game changer!

    For me personally, just that change in self perception has brought me from “ugh it’s sunday I need to go on a run because my training program wants me to go on a run on sunday” to “oh it’s sunday, time to go on my run cause that is what I do”. No need for convincing, no need for motivation, no need to tax my brains’ go/no go mechanisms.




  • I’m a woman who lives in a college town famous for its high quality Electrical Engineering, Mechanical Engineering and Computer Science degrees. So the woman to man ratio in the 20-30 age group is like 1:4 at best.

    So a lot of guys I’m friends with just don’t get laid cause the math doesn’t work out 🤷

    Some of them tho… should probably do a bit of soul-searching first. Being dismissive about “female interests” like makeup and the gym while also being weirdly fetishistic about “gamer grill interests” like cosplay and video games just makes talking to them really hard. Like, they’ll always look at everything you say through a lens of “how does that benefit ME?” - Talking to them is a literal minefield.

    Another factor is also that they’ll exclusively hang out in male spaces and just expect women to show up and talk to them somehow??? Like yeah, don’t sign up to ballet just to creep on women, but expanding your horizon beyond Friday Night Magic won’t kill you. I’ve heard Lorcana is great, and there are plenty of women playing it at my local game store… just casually talking to them during a game would be a normal human interaction