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Cake day: January 26th, 2025

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  • I’m reading all these comments in the “Lemmy Be Wholesome” community and just yikes.

    I can see it from both perspectives.

    Sometimes, I can’t handle a random person like a coworker emotional-dump on me. I’ll give shallow level sympathy. We don’t have a relationship where we both trust each other to give advice or support in a successful way. So yeah, you’re going to get a “Bro that’s rough man.”

    If I really like the person, I’m there for them, above and beyond. The tradeoff has to be mutual. They got my back, and I have theirs. Its my wife. It’s my therapist. It’s my best buddy from high school. It’s my team from work. It’s the coffee shop people I see every other day.

    Lots of work and trust built before I can open up.

    That’s what I’m wondering here. You people okay? You people out there building real connections?



  • I used to have a bunch of toxic friends in my 20s where someone goes “I’m struggling” and someone replies “Everyone is. Stop bringing us down.” That was the clearest way I saw that.

    These days, I see it in different ways. The coworker that’s just TMIs and people give that look to them/tell them that this is a professional setting. Or during a check-in, someone goes, “Everything is great” and holding it all in.



  • This is very much it.

    I’m not trying to dismiss OP either. I’m glad they finally notice. But for a huge population of the world, it’s ALWAYS been there. There’s been a lot of evil shit. It’s just it was never on their doorstep until now.

    But this isn’t a “The world is all doom and gloom”.

    There is a significant amount of positive upswings. Looking in the past 10,000 years, we are absolutely in a better era. We can make jokes and shit post about it, but the average person’s quality of life back then no where matched what we are doing today. We tend to be relatively safe. We can get a variety of food anywhere.

    Humans unfortunately only have a small window of time and don’t see it, but there’s a lot of good in the past hundred years.