Idk, I rarely see someone disappointed at a gender reveal party. “Aw? Pink smoke? Sucks to you be you, shitbag” is not the standard response to someone hosting a big party in celebration of their next kid.
Admittedly, I don’t typically associate with families that think they are the next House of Windsor and needed a suitable number of male heirs to maintain the dynasty. So maybe you really do get people throwing little temper tantrums because they didn’t get the gender of child they wanted. But it has mostly seemed like an excuse to make a loud bang noise, release some colored smoke and confetti, and clap without any real consideration for what the gender will be.
oh i definitely hear people being disappointed. a coworker was ranting about his niece’s gender disappointing him! not even for like, rich person reasons. just gender essentialism, like pure “i wanted to be a cool uncle to a boy and that’s been stolen from me” type entitlement
like i cannot emphasize enough this is just because many people view children as basically accessories whose gender is only important as an aesthetic they want. they want to raise a boy because they’d like to paint their kids room blue and play baseball or a girl because they want to paint a room pink and watch disney princess movies. zero actual consideration for children as beings that could have any thoughts on things
one of my coworkers talks constantly about how he wishes one of his daughters was a son and how he’s always cajoling his wife into bearing him another child so he can get his matching set
he’s always cajoling his wife into bearing him another child so he can get his matching set
I’ve heard this sentiment before. I’ve even heard of folks doing IVF just to guarantee gender.
But that tends to be a separate phenomena from the Gender Reveal Party, which is more about making a spectacle of the reveal than being invested in the outcome.
Idk, I rarely see someone disappointed at a gender reveal party. “Aw? Pink smoke? Sucks to you be you, shitbag” is not the standard response to someone hosting a big party in celebration of their next kid.
Admittedly, I don’t typically associate with families that think they are the next House of Windsor and needed a suitable number of male heirs to maintain the dynasty. So maybe you really do get people throwing little temper tantrums because they didn’t get the gender of child they wanted. But it has mostly seemed like an excuse to make a loud bang noise, release some colored smoke and confetti, and clap without any real consideration for what the gender will be.
oh i definitely hear people being disappointed. a coworker was ranting about his niece’s gender disappointing him! not even for like, rich person reasons. just gender essentialism, like pure “i wanted to be a cool uncle to a boy and that’s been stolen from me” type entitlement
like i cannot emphasize enough this is just because many people view children as basically accessories whose gender is only important as an aesthetic they want. they want to raise a boy because they’d like to paint their kids room blue and play baseball or a girl because they want to paint a room pink and watch disney princess movies. zero actual consideration for children as beings that could have any thoughts on things
one of my coworkers talks constantly about how he wishes one of his daughters was a son and how he’s always cajoling his wife into bearing him another child so he can get his matching set
We can make it happen. We have the technology.
I’ve heard this sentiment before. I’ve even heard of folks doing IVF just to guarantee gender.
But that tends to be a separate phenomena from the Gender Reveal Party, which is more about making a spectacle of the reveal than being invested in the outcome.