oh i definitely hear people being disappointed. a coworker was ranting about his niece’s gender disappointing him! not even for like, rich person reasons. just gender essentialism, like pure “i wanted to be a cool uncle to a boy and that’s been stolen from me” type entitlement

like i cannot emphasize enough this is just because many people view children as basically accessories whose gender is only important as an aesthetic they want. they want to raise a boy because they’d like to paint their kids room blue and play baseball or a girl because they want to paint a room pink and watch disney princess movies. zero actual consideration for children as beings that could have any thoughts on things