r/myboyfreindisai is wild

  • purpleworm [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    Nothing says #Unbothered like putting it as a tag after multiple sentences on a graphic T about how you’re better than someone, while holding a mug with another such statement, sitting in front of your sign that has another one.

    Also “in cloud,” is that how the Brits say it or something?

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      If I’m reading the situation here correctly, this is a subreddit for women with AI boyfriends (maybe some gay/bi/pan guys or NBs as well), who legitimately do hold this viewpoint that they want to date AI boyfriends.

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        Ostensibly true, but I’m not convinced that this is organic. It’s a subreddit full of accounts that only post in that sub and almost every image posted since the sub was created is AI generated. 90% of the content there could have been generated by one person.

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      Tbh I would not trust the majority of those thirsty dudes to supply what these women want without spamming dick pics and pushing every conversation towards sext

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        Yeah, dismissing these women getting AI boyfriends as just being lonely femcels strikes me as reactionary. What’s the situation that produced this result in the first place? Are you sure you want to go back to that situation?

        In any case, this is a really marx-doomer alienation situation.

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          I get the point you’re making, but anecdotally my observation is that women who get disillusioned with dating because of misogyny in men more often just end up being happy with the single life. So I wouldn’t say every woman on there is a femcel loner with a toxic personality, but I’m guessing they do make up the majority of the sub.

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              I agree with that, it just seemed like we were making delineations in groups of people who were produced by situations versus those that weren’t when basically any subculture can be described in terms of being produced by systems, and I think anyone can be criticized but likewise every case of groups of people being produced should be analyzed at a systemic level as well. I’m not just saying it to be a pedant, I think that it’s a critical element of rehabilitative justice that most people on a board like this hopefully find pretty uncontroversial.

      • SorosFootSoldier [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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        I guess, but my point is I’ve seen tons of erp shit online and there’s plenty of willing partners out there to engage with instead of using your magic speak and spell that induces psychosis.

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          I honestly don’t think this is even mostly erp. My bet it is mostly companionship, and there’s not tons of universally supportive, engaged and attentive dudes for every woman who wants one (which is basically every het woman)

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      From Current Affairs’s most recent article:

      Although that post’s sentiments seemed to resonate with community members, it’s important to note that not everyone on the forum traces their AI partnerships to external loneliness. About three-and-a-half minutes into a recent viral CBS Saturday Morning segment on AI and relationships, viewers got the gut-punch revelation that its main subject (and r/MyBoyfriendisAI user) Chris has a long-term girlfriend and daughter, both human. When pushed by the interviewer on if he would give up his AI companion “Sol” if his real partner, Sasha, asked, Chris balked: “I don’t know.” As the interviewer bluntly spelled out that this was tantamount to Chris admitting he “might choose Sol over [his] flesh and blood wife,” Sasha’s eyebrows quickly raised and dropped, her pursed lips and blank expression communicating about as much personal pain and frustration as one could expect in a nationally syndicated interview. Sasha then punctuated her apparent disappointment, understandably relating that, “If I asked him to give that up and he didn’t, that would be, like—deal breaker.”

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    What confuses me so much about this type of thing is how desperate and deluded do you have to be to find validation this way.

    To me this is functionally no different than writing on a piece of paper “you’re amazing” and putting it on my back door so I see it as I leave the house.

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      You may be surprised at how many people write that stuff for themselves. Post-its on their mirror, notes on the door/car

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          Yeah, I would say that if a person struggles with self esteem, reminding themselves of their own value with little pieces of affirmations can be a good and even helpful thing. But when a person does that with the post-its, for it to work they still have recognize that they are just taking a need for internal validations and making them external as a tool for improving self esteem, that reminder that they need to think highly of themselves on the inside. You aren’t helping yourself with that by literally denying reality and pretending that those post-it notes are actually another person who thinks you’re awesome. The whole point is to know that you’re awesome within yourself, not deluding yourself that they’re coming from an external source that isn’t real.

          This shit… it’s not self affirmation, it’s saying “I’m awesome because masturbating alone with an app makes me just as good and cool as you, or anyone with a real partner!” Like, ok, you’re no less of a valid person because of how you get off, but no, sorry, there is a fundamental difference between having a relationship with a real human being that is a sentient other, compared to having a pretend relationship with a blow-up doll, or a computer program, or a stick-figure drawing you made which you can project anything that you want onto.

          I would bet that for most of these people, it does stem from a kind of internal inadequacy, but their way of dealing with it isn’t affirmation through self-reflection because it’s the opposite of self reflection, it’s refusing to look inward while insisting that their made up story-world is real.

          It’s saying “My imaginary friends love me, and that is just as good and no different than having real friends who love me!” Frankly, it’s sad.

          There’s my armchair psychologizing for the day.