But that’s assuming this is solely a man/woman issue and not an issue of cultural learning. It’s not just that women are physically smaller than men and thus there is a real potential biological danger, it’s that there is a culture that has been prescribed to these women with deep roots woven widely across society. When a woman decides to start having sex with other women, she doesn’t suddenly walk away from all that cultural learning; that baggage comes with her. So even if it was always male voices screaming words like “slut” and “whore,” those words are still ingrained in her psyche even as she turns her attention toward other women.

Imo, there’s a lot more nuance to the topic, and a big part of the reason why gay men frequently have more sex than gay women has a lot more to do with cultural differences regarding agency and reputation than anything intrinsic to our biology.