I find waiting for things physically exhausting. Waiting in lines, waiting sitting in a room, waiting on friends to decide what they want to eat, walking really slowly with an elderly relative: I find it all physically exhausting even though very little physical energy is required.
Yeah that was me until I got ADHD meds.
Not saying anything is wrong with you or the world these days isn’t a fucking time vampire but it helped me cope by chilling out and learning to be productive through all the loading screens. I also listen to music while outside so I don’t get hit with the repetitiveness of the daily walk to go to the store or chores (also just loading screens really).
No idea how normies don’t feel their life slipping away from them and start riots at some of that shit, hell they sit through ads! There’s never enough hours in the day and years in life as-is.
Almost more importantly as an adult I’ve learned to just say no. Friend wants to visit trendy restaurant in the big city but it’s got a queue? No thanks. Go to the cinema for £20 to sit through ads in a shit hole with expensive snacks where I can’t openly vape? Nope. Been there done that, at 25 I just have way way better things to do.
That said though a 2h daily commute is the kind of wait no meds can fix, it’s pure shit life syndrome unless you WFH so if that’s what you’re getting at then you need to improve your material circumstances.
I have definitely improved on the ‘saying no’ tactic you mentioned or the similar ‘remove yourself from the scenario’ one. Luckily my workplace gives me relatively broad control over my time as long as I’m meeting deadlines and such so it’s more a problem I run into with family or friends. I prefer to run errands and even go on day trips alone and have to fight my preferences to lead a normal social life/be a reasonably active member of my community (which I do value, at least theoretically).
Idk, I don’t know what people mean by community, if it exists - I never found it and to me it might as well be a shadowy organization out of a conspiracy theory, traces supposedly everywhere according to the internet but no sign in real life of any such thing.
I’ll spend time with friends and my S.O. but we’ll find different activities that don’t require long waits.