You’re forgetting that the context. A TSA agent asks for her phone number. This creates a horrible situation. Will he detain me unjustly if I don’t keep a flirty demeanor? How do I turn him down without hurting his ego so he doesn’t try to get revenge.

I think that’s a huge part of it. Women have to learn to reject men softly for their own protection. I imagine it’s exhausting and terrifying.