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    That hurts. Do you attempt to give him a boost at the risk of the insincerity seeping into your affect, or try to just ignore it?

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      I feel like, if you are categorically incapable of coming up with something nice to say about someone’s hat with a degree of sincerity necessary to make it through that one-off interaction, then one of two things is true: either you’re the wrong person to be involving themselves, or the hat is so horrendous, the kind thing to do would actually be insulting them so they never wear it again. My money is on the former tho lol

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    Srsly? I assume this is what comes out when you have a compulsive need to mock somebody but you draw a blank.

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    Just fucking stop. He’s trying. If he likes it, it works, okay? Goddam everyone gotta be so fucking mean and judgemental. And yes, I’m going through some shit rn

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      She isn’t baggin’ on the dude, only saying it sucks to see the hat wearer so uncomfortable. I’d call that a score for empathy.

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          Plus, it’s jumping to conclusions. Maybe the dude had an upset stomach and went into the cafe for a chamomile tea. So he was making a funny face. Who fucking knows. Anyway, the claim that the person going “hmm he’s not pulling off that look” then posting it online is being empathetic is wild.

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      for real, no matter what you do, someone will hate on you for it….

      not too long ago, i was walking through a large wooded dog park with my guitar, dicking around on it quietly as i walked over to a nice private spot to play away some feelings (going through some shit myself).

      the next day, some frumpy middle aged lady came up to me and said, “what, no guitar today?” in a clearly taunting manner… i responded with distain but i should’ve yelled at her….

      can i really not play an acoustic guitar in the woods without someone giving me shit for it? i wasn’t strumming and singing all loud or anything, wasn’t seeking attention… just entertaining myself quietly….

      everyone listens to music, it’s one of the most universal human traits… but nowadays if you play music people act like there’s something wrong with you…. unless it’s in a prescribed setting….

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      You’re living in real life. This is the internet. Everyone is fearless behind a screen.

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      Imagine seeing the guy with the hat and not only judging him but thinking “this is an opportunity to get likes and shares on the internet.”

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      nah fuck that. you don’t need to justify it.

      wear your fucking hat. its better than 100% of the idiots making fun of it.

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          I think he’s referring to the internet and maybe society at large being more okay with shaming, humiliating, etc men publicly when this would be scrutinized greatly if it was a post about a woman in a cowboy hat but… His reply is totally out of place lol. It’s not like the comment he’s replying to even alluded to anything along the lines.

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    I still remember the sudden look of realization when I told a fellow shy nerd at the NerdCon rave “We’re already shirtless and covered in body paint, we might as well dance”.

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      That’s sweet he was able to cut losses that day, we all deserve to be free from judgment to just have fun every now and then

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    Hey, some looks you gotta build yourself up to. I’m a dude with long hair, when I first let it grow long enough to tie back, it felt really weird being in public with a ponytail/ bun. I didn’t feel like “the guy with the ponytail” yet.

    A few more trips to the coffee shop, and hopefully this guy will just be “the guy in the cowboy hat” 👍🏽

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      Oh shit, I thought it was just me. I was so subconscious about it, I actually tie it up all the time. Then one day I started to get more confident and just let it down all the time.

      One time(while wearing a mask) someone called me ma’am. Another time a Indian man in Brisbane was being a dick and told me women can’t be in the male bathroom.

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        I also used to have long hair and would accidentally get called ma’am back in the day. I noticed the person who said it is usually wayyy more mortified than you are. Partly because they misgendered you, but mostly because they totally just checked out your ass too. After realizing that, it never bothered me again.

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        Growing my hair out forever ago is how I learned (started, anyway) I have only a faint attachment to the male identity. I got called “ma’am” with surprising regularity and it never bothered me to be misgendered. My hair’s still long, but I’m fat and bearded so waitstaff are a lot more confident from all angles. People were a lot more casually homophobic back then too, but girls loved to play with it so the joke’s on them.

        I’ve always kept it brushed and loose unless I’m working and need it out of the way. (Or it’s windy. Damned wind.)

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          Danm wind. Every time I ride a motorcycle, tangled level 100.

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      When I first grew my hair out as a young teen, I didn’t put it up at all until I cut it short again. The next time I tried growing it out it became my thing to always have it up

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        Yup, I never tied my hair back growing up. Now that on my last hurrah with it as it’s falling out, I tend to tie it back more often than not when I’m working.

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      Very much so. Wore a bun for years until I was like oh this doesn’t look like complete shit.

      I’d want someone to say if it did though lol

      My dad was cowboy hat guy. It helps if you get a porn stache going as well. Adds to the mystique.

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      At Texas A&M you won’t get ten seconds inside a building without someone politely but very forcefully telling you that you are being disrespectful wearing a hat inside.

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      Jesus tipping Mary, thank you! The hat was specifically to keep the sun off my face, out of my eyes, and the rain from running down my neck. As a fashion statement, I hate it. The ‘rodeo’ near me has so many dipshits rocking it because they think it makes them look the part, and meanwhile they’re on the third topo chico and sweating in the indoor AC.

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        I want a straw cowboy hat for work. My boonies hat works well, but it’s too damned hot. Know where I can get a solid deal?

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          I just get the cheap ones from any of the hardware stores. I had a nice one for work when it was a role that was for a local government and I had to meet with folks outdoors, but if it’s just for dirty work then the cheap stuff will last for long enough. Most of my hats were ruined by mechanical intervention before they wore out.

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      A cowboy once told me, that you can spot a fake by how clean their hat is.

      Since (so he told me) in case a bull had an episode, they would throw their hat in the other direction and climb over the corral fence. The bull would often go after the hat.

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      Is he even a cowboy if he doesn’t put his hat over his heart and address a woman as “ma’am”

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        I guess cowbiy is different to everyone but to me you lost the Cowboy at the entering of a coffee shop. Various reasons, 1 being it’s cheaper at home, and 2 being that the last cowboy I knew made $35k a year, so he couldn’t afford a coffee shop

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          I make the same amount and I can concur; the only time I drink coffee is when I get it for free at work.

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    Sometimes people are just having tough days. Sometimes their insecurities aren’t worn on their sleeves or hats. Occasionally, we just have to wait a few days until our scalps recover from freak birthday candle accidents, and the hat fused to your skull by singed flesh and fat can be removed without surgical intervention. Everyone is living their own life. Don’t jump to conclusions.

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            It’s just a cowboy hat, I don’t think they’re specific to Texas. I’m fairly certain that some parts of Canada have long been associated with cowboys.

            I know nothing about the guy wearing it in the picture though. He looks like a dick

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            He’s the leader of our Conservative party and a close contender to be our next Prime Minister. He’s about as fake as a person can be and has absolutely no vision or plan for Canada.

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              Sure he does. His vision is <please insert whatever old ass energy companies who are too stupid and slow to get with the green program want>, and he feels really strongly about it.

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          Same. The Libs are projected to win, but I’m really worried about low voter turnout as it was with America’s last election. I never want to see that fucking cunt become PM as he so badly craves.

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            We are seeing good numbers in advance polling. I think this year will have a better voter turn out than most recent years.