Women still spend more time caring for children compared to men, as evident from the US survey carried out between 2011 and 2021.
Interestingly, while levels of employment affected child care time for both men and women, for men the effect was less pronounced.
One other interesting finding is that the difference between men and women is minimal when both work full-time, suggesting a more equal distribution of duties due to lack of available time.
Aside from grooming, manipulation etc. there are also such things as general trends and societal pressures.
As men are, on average, caring less of their children, women have harder time finding male partners that would do enough of it, and it gets normalized. As it does so, society starts to see women who want an equal partner in terms of child care as too picky and unrealistic, and indeed, it might be hard to find a partner that fits this criteria along with other ones any person has.
It’s important to remember that finding a good partner is hard for everyone.