• GetOffMyLan@programming.dev
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        14 hours ago

        It becomes less meaningful as you get older.

        The issue with a teen and a 30 yo is the balance of power. Kids that age haven’t dated and figured out all the red flags making abuse much more likely and easy to pull off.

        Once you’re both over 30 it doesn’t really make much difference apart from potential grossness which is super subjective.

        • Orbituary@lemmy.world
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          12 hours ago

          I’m 48 and my girlfriend of several years is 31. We don’t really think about it. But if I were 31 she would have been 14. It’s not a pleasant thought in that context.

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        13 hours ago

        My sister and I had an agreement, I don’t date anyone younger than her and she doesn’t date anyone older than me. :)

        We’re 9 years apart.

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          Okay, but since you haven’t established birth order, that could be either a really good rule or a really bad one.

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            10 hours ago

            Yeah, sorry, I’m older. :)

            I married someone 5 years younger than me, 4 years older than her.

            TBH, I don’t know how old her husband is. Pretty sure he’s younger than me.