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  • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]
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    4 months ago

    I really, really do not want to sound like that. Maybe that’s fine for some people but not me.

    I don’t think Ash was saying you should. But like… I hear a woman even when listening to Reinventing Axle Rose nowadays, which I didn’t expect back when Dysphoria Blues released.

    • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      4 months ago

      Yes, thank you!!! aubrey-happy I had a great time when I finally disconnected vocal tones from gender. It’s a tough worm to dig out but it’s rad.

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        I had a great time when I finally disconnected vocal tones from gender.

        I wish I generally could separate the two. LJG is the only artist I listened to before they came out (well officially came out - Trash Unreal always felt autobiographical, so when she finally came out, it made a lot more sense).

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          It’s tough because it’s so ingrained societally, but exposing yourself to more cool people generally was something I found helped. People sound all kinds of ways =)

        • magi [null/void]@hexbear.netM
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          I’m agender so it was more I wanted my voice to sound a touch higher in tone… and only shifted an octave… It’s weird I dunno, thinking back I maybe felt pressured because of the predominantly transfem spaces I was in that influenced that plus not very healthy spaces at that…

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            Not really sure what I’d want for my own voice (other than avoiding buzziness). So many cool and different voice types.

            If I wasn’t more self-aware of my own voice because of transfem spaces, I probably wouldn’t really consider the genders of singers much and generally probably was a bit less self-aware of gender before egg-crack than most people? Like, a couple times I’ve been in otherwise all-girl groups without noticing until someone else pointed it out (one of those times was when we were changing and apparently that’s usually gender-separated activity here 😕).

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              Yeah I wanted mine to sound a little nicer and to lift it a touch more, but I didn’t really have voice dysphoria before. I’m more comfortable since I’ve had more introspection and knowledge on top.

              It’s also why now I’d be more letting people work themselves out if that makes sense, but give advice where needed. I think I was aware of presentation and such but didn’t really apply things to myself lol but I analyse a lot and over think but I also don’t get envy or such negative feelings, it’s a weird mix of being ace and intersex and non binary on top of autism lol But it’s taken me on a weird journey where figuring out I’m agender is fairly recent…