• Allero
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    Male (and female) voices are different.

    If you go in line with the patriarchal system and keep your mouth shut about genuine issues you might have, you’ll face no shortage of attention.

    The second you go against this formula, you’ll likely find yourself severely ostracised. Try talking about how cool it is to be a househusband, or how knitting is actually good, and try to find an audience. Tell people around that you pursue passion over money, and good luck building a family. Tell anyone about things in which men are genuinely disadvantaged - and then not be claimed as a whiny hypocritical bitch.

    As a woman, go full tradwife and you’ll be praised. Talk about the joy of maternity and people will translate it. Go gentle, don’t contest the positions of power, and you’ll get your attention very briefly.

    It’s not a male vs female thing. It’s about men and women for/against patriarchy, and while women have managed to overcome a significant share of gender stereotypes, men have not, and it’s not that feminism is there to help.

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      Try talking about how cool it is to be a househusband, or how knitting is actually good, and try to find an audience. Tell people around that you pursue passion over money, and good luck building a family. Tell anyone about things in which men are genuinely disadvantaged - and then not be claimed as a whiny hypocritical bitch.

      That is not my experience, and I’m sorry if it’s yours. But than again you are talking about normalizing pressure from the conservative society that tries to preserve traditional gender roles. That one is not on feminism. And there are men in position of power with platforms and I would argue there are quite diverse male voices, if you inclined to look for them.

      As a woman, go full tradwife and you’ll be praised. Talk about the joy of maternity and people will translate it. Go gentle, don’t contest the positions of power, and you’ll get your attention very briefly.

      I’m not sure that this is the experience most women make. Seems a bit magnetosphery influenced perception.

      It’s not a male vs female thing. It’s about men and women for/against patriarchy, and while women have managed to overcome a significant share of gender stereotypes, men have not, and it’s not that feminism is there to help.

      I really don’t get why feminism which tries to diversify gender roles does not help men. It helped me.