• MacN'CheezusOP
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    5 months ago

    I think it’s fine in this context because presumably, the therapist and the client are on the same team, but I do dislike it in another situations where consent isn’t necessarily as strongly implied.

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      5 months ago

      Agreed – one of the techniques in therapy is for the therapist to model positive behavior or perspectives for the patient, rather than simply dictating to the patient what they should or shouldn’t do: “We” are working together to find coping skills that will reduce the distress “we” feel.

      But outside of a safe therapeutic environment, that “we wouldn’t want that” or “we don’t do that sort of thing” can be super dismissive and demeaning – like how a parent would speak to a child.

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        5 months ago

        Yes, that’s precisely what I meant. Thanks for fleshing it out.