NTA. The person holding the steering wheel controls the car. If you don’t know the way, you should ask. It’s not everyone else’s job to get you to your destination.

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NTA. He ended the relationship, you have no obligation to stay with him. It may be wise for you to start handling the legal aspects of this if you haven’t already. Get a lawyer and make some formal custody agreements would be a good start if you haven’t.