I get along with other women pretty well on a surface level, but it can be hard to really relate to a lot of women my age because I don’t have kids. And there is a certain amount of stereotypically female pop culture that I’m not into, like the Kardashians or romantasy books, which can be limiting when I’m trying to connect with someone new.

I’d love to make IRL friends with some women my age who share some of my interests - makeup, nail polish, star trek, kayaking, gardening, '60s music, weightlifting, French language. But I don’t know how! I’ve struck out on Bumble BFF and kind of gave up for a bit haha

It’s a community for women. We’re not so hard up that we need men to come in and be sympathetic. Sometimes we just want a kiki with other ladies. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

You did a nice job, especially with shaping them!

Throw people in jail for driving too fast? That seems pretty extreme.

It’s hard to police speeding on a highway. Typically if you do get pulled over for speeding, it’s because you’re going way faster than those around you. So even in a 55, if everyone’s doing 80, you’ve gotta be doing 95 or more for a cop to single you out and arrest you. (Or maybe the cop has a quota to meet.) And where I live, local cops can’t use radar, so it’s hard to prove how fast you were going.

And then if you do get arrested, you’re most likely to get a ticket and points on your license. Get enough points and they’ll take away your license, but that means you’ve been caught repeatedly. And points expire eventually, plus if you go to your court date and plead not guilty, a lot of the time the judge will just remove the points. So a speeding ticket from years ago generally won’t have any bearing on your life except for the cost of the ticket.

So within reason, you can pretty much speed all the time consequence-free ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Reminds me of Aaahh!!! Real Monsters

Yep! That was the first qntm book I read.

Beatles rooftop concert, hands down

I disagree. There are two roads near me with a limit of 55 mph, and traffic on those roads regularly moves at 75-80. Driving 55 becomes dangerous when all of the other traffic is going so much faster, because nobody expects you to be that slow. You risk getting rear-ended, and if traffic is heavy, people who end up behind you now have to merge into a much faster lane of traffic to get around you.

Yeah Riker has nothing on Captain Jack.

Re: item #1

But when I kissed the cop down at 34th and Vine

He broke my little bottle of

Love Potion No. 9

Right?! Picard could fucking get it.

I only know 3 of these shows and they’re all awesome

Oh shit latkes are like bringing a gun to a knife fight. None of the other options even come close.

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As is “keep your government hands off my Medicare”

This makes me think of the Ani DiFranco lyrics:

I am not an angry girl
But it seems like I’ve got everyone fooled
Every time I say something they find hard to hear
They chalk it up to my anger
And never to their own fear

Rather than take what we do or say at face value, there’s some kind of interpretation that is meant to diminish us. So assertive becomes bitchy, and honest becomes angry. 🙄

What an insecure little manbaby. I feel bad for his wife!

In my early twenties I worked in the main office for a company that staffed medical imaging personnel (e.g., x-ray techs and sonographers) to local facilities. It was an office full of ladies and only one guy, and this guy was a jerk. His job was to handle the scheduling for the techs. He had been a daytrader on Wall Street but couldn’t handle the stress, so I guess he was slumming it with us for a while. He was a very intense dude with no chill, and he clearly had a pretty low opinion of women in general.

Anyway. One of our ultrasound techs was heavily pregnant and feeling unwell, so she called out sick one morning. And this douchebag went on a huge angry rant about how being pregnant isn’t a sickness, it’s not an excuse to miss work, his wife never took a sick day during her pregnancy, and how the tech was creating more work for him to have to scramble to find someone to replace her at the last minute. And nobody said anything - all of the other ladies in the office were just silent. And I guess my New Jersey came out, because I told him the fuck off. Told him that he has no goddamn idea what it’s like to be pregnant, and no right to judge her for taking a sick day, and he’s in an office full of women, so he should be respectful and keep his sexist tirade to himself because nobody wanted to hear it.

I was so sure I was going to get reprimanded for that, but a bunch of the women in the office thanked me for saying something. I was really surprised! Even my boss said something like “yeah, you probably shouldn’t have done that, but I’m glad you did.”

Please tell Leonard he’s precious 🤍