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  • Cade@beehaw.orgtoLGBTQ+@beehaw.orgWhy We Hate Bi Men
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    1 year ago

    I don’t care how many times people explain to me that “kill all men” doesn’t actually mean kill all men. It still hurts. Ever since I transitioned, I’ve noticed the casual misandry thrown about everywhere like it’s not a big deal, but it’s a big deal to me. “All men are trash” includes me.

    I’ve always had an issue with the idea that generalizations are okay. If “all men are trash” actually means “the patriarchy is trash”, just say that. I understand a lot of it as simply venting, but it’s almost never constructive or helpful, and it certainly isn’t fun to hear as a trans dude. Hell, part of the reason it took so long for me to accept myself as a man is because of this kind of rhetoric.

    I hope it gets better, because it does feel very alienating whenever I encounter it. I want to be a part of queer spaces, but it’s hard when you feel hated.







  • Cade@beehaw.orgtoChat@beehaw.org*Permanently Deleted*
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    1 year ago

    The problem from my point of view is people not spaying/neutering cats, and then inevitably a feral population will show up. Many cats can have a litter at 6 months old. I’ve personally watched generations of cats grow outside my workplace.

    It’s a huge problem. All the local shelters are beyond max capacity JUST FROM CATS. Feral cats explode in population, and the only real way to get populations under control is more Trap-Neuter-Return programs along with educating cat owners on why they absolutely must spay/neuter. There is no excuse not to.

    https://www.alleycat.org/our-work/trap-neuter-return/



  • Depression is a bitch. Most important thing is to try to stay ahead and keep ahead of it. Pick yourself back up every time, and it starts getting easier.

    For me, I almost get an immediate sense that it’s starting to creep in, kind of like getting flashes before a migraine. I get to brace for impact. I think if it sneaks up on you like that, it may be a good idea to try to journal, just so you can maybe get a better sense of your daily moods and perhaps notice if there are any triggers that cause depressive episodes.



  • I see a lot of people quick to hate on PHP while not really knowing anything about it’s modern usage… but the thing I think of most is how people praise Lemmy for using Rust and diss Kbin for using PHP, but at the end of the day it’s HOW those tools are used that determines the quality of something. Language changes, but fundamentals stay the same, and in the end all anyone should care about is whether or not something works.

    Programming language wars have always seemed a tad shallow to me.




  • Yeah, right now they offer 100 free searches and then 5 bucks a month capping out at 300 searches, along with other tiers. Would much prefer it to be more like a prepaid cellphone, and just buy searches… or maybe have the searches roll over to the next month lol. I’ll still try the free searches, but it would be nice to throw money at the thing instead of having the stress of yet another subscription service to remember to cancel if I stop using it.


  • I can completely get behind paying for a service if that means the service works and is better than all the other ones. I’ll at least try it out. Personally, I’d probably prefer if I could pay for a certain number of searches (like pay for a 1000 searches with 20 bucks) instead of the subscription model. I’m glad that there’s an ad-free search service though.