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  • Where did I talk about a 4-year-old? I’m not exactly appealed with you putting those words in my mouth.

    That said, obviously there is a big difference. I already mentioned the gentle guidance, for that sixteen year old; eg. that if they ever have questions concerning the house maintenance and all that, they should always feel free to come ask you.

    And… these aren’t really dangerous years to be unsupervised. In fact, I think it’s more dangerous to live supervised by a deeply controlling helicopter parent, evangelist family.

    As I said: gentle guidance. I ask you to read before commenting.


  • Going by all your comments, honestly, I’d say, why not? You get privacy, your kid grows independent. Try it out for half a year or year at least.

    Make clear arrangements:

    • Clean your apartment every once in a while.
    • Take good care of yourself, but don’t be afraid to ask for help.
    • Pay utility bills themselves.

    You could give a low allowance (so you can pay the rent for them). Once they work/study and can pay rent themselves, offer that they pay rent themselves in exchange for a higher allowance.

    Or withhold a bit of the allowance (10%/mo?), and later together pick out a useful household item to buy, from that withheld bit.

    You could try doing it with a trial for say, half a year, if that goes well, perfect.

    Other than that, let 'em go for it.


  • That is strange reasoning. Not living on your own doesn’t help you mature or grow independent at all. It’s the reasoning insecure or helicopter parents tend to give.

    People here move out earlier all the time. I think it’s a great way to foster independence and selfcare.

    As long as the kid is gently guided (eg., put rules on paying a relatively low rent, don’t discriminate, that stuff), and knows they can ask questions re: “parent, how do I … X” and feel secure, that is good. A good parent raises their kid to be independent, not obedient like a dog.














  • I mean, there’s Patreon, but that’s American. It’s in San Francisco in California though, which is at least not Trumpland. But with how things are headed, I’d be cautious.

    Liberapay exists, but it uses Paypal, which is even scummier than Visa and Mastercard. Uses Stripe too, which is Irish-American (HQ in both countries).

    If there’s a FOSS decentralised* Patreon alternative that would support Wero, cash, and Monero, I could foreseee that having a ton of potential.

    * with the HQ of development or whatever being in a country that’s resistant against censorship.