Hexagons [e/em/eir]

I understand your point of view more than most of the arguments I’ve seen against mandatory pronouns. So please take my comment as friendly, I’ll do my best not to be a rude asshole.

How would you feel about (any) for your pronoun choice? That’s functionally the same as not listing them, people can still choose which ones they want to use for you, but it still shows you’re supportive of people prominently displaying their pronouns. That or you could consider maybe a neopronoun. I personally really like e/em/eir. They’re nice and genderless, easy to use, and, bonus, a mathematician came up with them in like the '70s (I could have the year wrong and I refuse to look it up), not because he was trying to be trans inclusive, but because he hated that math books assumed their readers were all men and he wanted to include women in his writing. (Singular they was considered ungrammatical at that point.)

No, they don’t. I personally know a cis person who has their pronouns on hexbear set as they/them or comrade/them. Those aren’t the pronouns they use in real life.

If someone assumes you’re trans simply because your pronouns are set to something other than she/her or he/him, that’s kind of on them. People are allowed to lie on the internet. Choose any pronouns you like, it doesn’t matter.

I personally assume absolutely nothing about the cisness or transness of someone with “any” or “none/use name” as their pronouns of choice.

Good god the medical system is awful about trans stuff, isn’t it? Absolute nightmare of a system, when it would be so easy to just give hormones to people who are like, hey, my life is better with hormones.

I didn’t actually realize that was the history of these terms, thanks for explaining. I guess “gender incongruence” is better, at least it’s not saying the person experiencing it is disordered. Still though, especially this far into transition, I don’t actually feel any “incongruence”. I’d be miserable if I had to stop taking testosterone, but having experienced that feeling, I wouldn’t describe it as gender incongruence, or, frankly, even having anything whatsoever to do with gender! My body just runs better with a testosterone-dominant endocrine system.

Ah well, the medical system is what it is, and despite the fact that the terminology used for us fucking sucks, there’s not really a better option right now.

I don’t exactly disagree with you and I certainly don’t want to say your feelings about the term are invalid, they’re very valid. I’d like to be very clear that I don’t wander around calling people transsexual.

But for me personally, at least in a medical context, I think it’s better than some other options. More precisely, last year my official diagnosis for health insurance purposes was “TRANSSEXUALISM”, all caps, I still have the letter from insurance because I find it deeply hilarious for some reason I can’t quite place, probably because “transsexual” is such an outdated term. This year they updated my diagnosis to “gender identity disorder” and I gotta say, I hate that. I don’t think my gender is disordered, I’m just not cis, that’s all. I’d much rather be labeled a “transsexual” than told I have “gender identity disorder”.

It’s part of the whole medicalizing trans identities fucking sucks, but those of us who need hormones do need to interact with a healthcare system that assumes all healthcare exists because we’re unhealthy in some way. I wish my diagnosis could just be, like, “needs testosterone”.

This got long, sorry. Basically, I, personally, only speaking for myself here, would much rather be diagnosed with “TRANSSEXUALISM” than “gender identity disorder”.

There are indeed a few of us! (Caveat: I’m extremely not actually a man, but I am transmasc and strangers treat me as a man, which I don’t think I’ll ever get used to!)

This article is so fucking funny. “Yes, Ansar Allah said they’re responsible for this attack, yes, all the evidence points towards them being responsible for this attack, but are we really sure it was them, really?” It really feels like whoever wrote this piece is really trying to minimize how capable Ansar Allah are, especially since they blame “human error” (by the Israelis) for the lack of warning about the attack when Ansar Allah has said this is a new type of drone that is undetectable by radar.

I guess I’m just more willing to take Ansar Allah at their word than whoever wrote this article, and I find it deeply amusing how much hedging you have to do if you refuse to believe that Ansar Allah is capable of doing the things they say they’re doing.

(Civility is a long-standing bit account here at hexbear. The whole shtick is replying with happy emojis when people are being civil but awful and angry emojis when people are being morally principled but uncivil. Check out Civility’s post history to see what I mean)

Nah, it’s just like a normal bar full of extreme alcoholics. It’s extremely neat that they’re super queer supportive!

Very extremely nice! I love supportive graffiti!

I love my local bar! I just went into a stall in the men’s and there was some graffiti that said, and I quote, “Trans men are the sexiest, hands down”.

Neat! Sure, I’m agender and not actually a man, but still, if people try to hassle me here, it’s pretty guaranteed that won’t fly, so that’s cool! You love to see it!

Careful, we’ve got lemmitors in this thread, the (in my opinion pretty obvious) irony of your comment might be lost on them

I just started Cult of the Lamb yesterday. What a strange little adorable game! I’m having a great time with it so far

I played Control, and apparently it’s set in the same universe as the Alan Wake games, which I had never heard of until I googled WTF was up with the Control DLC that deeply confused me. It turns out, it’s all references to Alan Wake. Which is why I was so confused. I should play them, I really enjoyed Control.

I can try to square that circle for you. Here’s my (I think pretty reasonable) take on scooters:

Right now, with city infrastructure the way it is, they’re terrible. There’s nowhere to ride them safely, they get left on sidewalks and bike paths, they’re just extremely dangerous right now, whether you’re riding one or just being around them.

But. They don’t have to be like this! Get rid of cars, put racks of scooters next to train stations and bus stations, have a bit of societal education about how to ride them safely, and boom! Great solution to the last mile problem! If there are convenient places to park them people won’t leave them on random sidewalks. If streets are full of scooters instead of cars, and if we get some rules of the road engrained in the public consciousness, then they won’t be dangerous, either for the rider or surrounding pedestrians and cyclists.

They could be (and should be) a great innovation, but their current implementation is so, so fucking bad, and leads to serious danger and accidents.

Oh yeah? I should probably check it out again then. It most certainly didn’t work several years ago when I quit twitch (Ublock origin is still the adblocker I use) (I don’t remember exactly when I stopped using twitch, time is a fuck)

Edit: oh you seem to be correct! I just went on twitch for the first time in years, and, uh, no ads? That actually might be pretty bad for me. Because I will watch streams all day if I’m not stopped from doing so somehow. Well, damn, but also, it’s objectively good, so I’m torn

Edit again: oh wait no, just saw an ad, and I’m unwilling to figure out exactly why or what I could do to mitigate it, since twitch is bad for me anyway. Ah well, no twitch for me, it’s ok!

Hahahaha, this is what made me quit twitch, for good. I’ll do the same with YouTube. It’ll suck, yes, but it’ll ultimately be good for me and my mental health. 3 years from now I won’t miss YouTube.

I drive Highway 0/ every morning, road work has been terrible recently!

Fair enough! Girls absolutely did fight, but I was never one to, and I wasn’t forced into it the way (most) boys who didn’t want to fight were.

Oh you’re right of course. I’ve read the rest of the thread, but still, I couldn’t resist trying to pin him down on something. I was mostly curious to see exactly what kind of weasel speak I’d get in response, you know?

Ok, this seems contradictory to me. Democratic centralism isn’t your strategy, but it is how you function. Can you please elaborate? What actually are you saying here and how isn’t it a contradiction to have something be both “how you function” and yet also “not a part of party strategy”?