I’m absolutely with you on that. I’ll never say it outright like “Hey friend, you’re trans” but I’ve had the conversation multiple times where I’ve said something along the lines of “Hey that was a super not-cis thing to say/do, do we maybe wanna unpack that?”
The prime dirEGGtive was meant to be broken, but it should be broken tactfully.
I have similar issues with bottom dysphoria, or rather did for a while lately it’s been better.
I recommend things like grinding and focusing primarily on outer course, keep your panties on, you don’t need to be naked to have sex.
If you’re curious and want to DM me you’re more than welcome, can’t guarantee you’ll hear back right away but I certainly have lots of advice that isn’t necessarily appropriate for an open forum.