CW: Doomer Rant About Transphobia

Unless someone explicitly confirms that they are not transphobic via the means of something like a genuinely supportive statement, a genuinely supportive action, or association with a group that outright condemns transphobia to a strict degree, I assume they are transphobic by default. This serves as a safety mechanism.

This includes trans people themselves, and it even extends to non-binary trans people.

Unfortunately, this mentality is extremely depressing and makes me feel that the world is fervently against me, but it’s not exactly wrong to assume that the world is fervently against me.

I never operate under the assumption that any stranger I meet, trans or cis, binary or non-binary, will truly respect me and be content with who I am, and that’s how bad transphobia has gotten.

I also live in Florida, so…

  • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    27·
    8 months ago

    I wish I could disagree with you or offer some optimism yea

    This shit sucks, badly. One of the reasons I post so much here is because hexbear is a non trash trans space cat-trans

  • Amerikan Pharaoh@lemmygrad.ml
    23·
    8 months ago

    Similar boat, but not exactly the same; given I assume anti-Blackness out of every unmelanated person I meet until given reason to believe otherwise-- so I can at least empathize with the angle. The only solace I have to offer is the fervent belief that even if slow, and even if greased in the blood of reaction, the arc of history will still eventually bend toward justice. All living things grow toward the light except for nihilists and fungi after all; and fungi at least serve a use in the circle of life.

    • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
      19·
      8 months ago

      I gave white people the benefit of the doubt after becoming class conscious and learning about the classism imposed on them rather than racism, but with that being said, after seeing so many white people not only cheer on literal armband SS skull wearing Nazis in the name of “democracy” and a “bulwark” to protect domestic minority rights, but demanding I also support it, I now go in the assumption that every white person is at best blissfully ignorant, or at worst active Nazis, no matter how many yard signs they have proclaiming progressive values.

      For example, I’ve discussed genocide, particularly the real Palestinian one and fictional ones in media, with some white coworkers are very liberal and supposedly anti fascist. They simply do not understand my position on using violence to combat violence and moving to a peaceful future. Perhaps it’s because they’ve lived in a country that’s always on the giving end of violence while ignoring their own suffering. Some of them have ‘defeatedly’ declared they’ll still purchase treats that benefit Israel while acknowledging the genocide… in front of Muslim and Arab colleagues. Like… what the hell man lol. And one of said white coworkers had the balls to suggest I rename a document that I temporarily, jokingly, and privately named “The [Project Name] Bible” because “[Muslim coworkers’ names] might be offended.”

      • Amerikan Pharaoh@lemmygrad.ml
        3·
        8 months ago

        Dgmw, I like fungi, without them we’d have NO efficient decompositors save like… Throwing dead shit into humid locations and letting it break down by itself; but you can’t deny their dank creepiness and their seeming disregard for the sun.

  • zifnab25 [he/him, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    12·
    8 months ago

    I also live in Florida, so…

    Damn bro, that sucks. Florida has the potential to be the run-away gayest state in the country if not for the death grip of Guasanos and religious fanatics.

    I never operate under the assumption that any stranger I meet, trans or cis, binary or non-binary, will truly respect me and be content with who I am

    There’s so much baked in transphobia. I’ll openly admit to takes a real conscious effort for me to cram the instinctual desire to act like an asshole back into the hole it crawled out of.

    Can’t imaging what it’s like being on the receiving end. Like sitting in a room full of folks - green to the gills - wondering who is going to lose their lunch all over you.

    Just remember this shit is a sickness other people have. It’s not your fault they ingested filth. And know that it’s a sickness that can and does pass (possibly after they’ve regurgitated it all over the floor in front of you). It’s generally a good sign if they apologize while they clean it up.

    • bobs_guns@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
      17·
      8 months ago

      I’ve been on the receiving end.

      CW transphobia, obviously

      I was at a company retreat and some of my coworkers were swiping on Tinder. A trans woman came up and they started making fun of her neck and choker and telling stories about how a trans woman propositioned them and how disgusting it was when they found out. These guys were quite high up in the company so I couldn’t do anything. I was a bit disgusted by their behavior, but more than that it made me feel unlovable and worthless. I wasn’t out to them at the time. I lost my job there after I came out and was isolated from the main development team, and it was a while before I could even start looking for work again.

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    10·
    8 months ago

    Considering you live in Florida of all places, that’s probably the safest stance to take. Other places seem safer to me. I know where I live, most people don’t give a damn in the slightest. In my 2 years of being out, I don’t think a single soul has ever said a thing to me. Private or public for that matter. Mind you this is my personal experience. It’s definitely different from person to person.

  • Mardoniush [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    9·
    8 months ago

    I do too, which is why if a trans friend is thinking of joining a group I have pre bullied the 1 or 2 crypto-TERFs relentlessly into submission