• kandoh@reddthat.com
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      11 months ago

      I think of it as more of a fear of death and passing on your own genetics as of way of soothing that fear.

      Totally devalues the kid as their own person though (common thing for parents to do).

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        11 months ago

        Unfortunately, that’s exactly my observation too. Some people don’t seem to value life itself, but only if it suits them.

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      11 months ago

      If we could measure the essence of “this child was wanted and will be loved” I bet it would be significantly higher for adopted kids. On average, of course.

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      I think it’s a clear sign that it’s the selfish genes talking, puppeting your higher functions to make sure they survive. Not for any reason, but just because those are the genes most likely to continue reproducing.

      It’s a bit egotistic, but I like to imagine I’ve sublimated the drive to reproduce, by helping out my friends and their kids when I can. Hehe stupid genes, you think these are your kids because the bonds of friendship getting crossed wires with direct kinship. Stupid-ass genes, you don’t even know your ride ends here.

      Yeah it’s really egotistic, but it’s a fun little fiction.

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      11 months ago

      “I can’t explain it, you just have to be a parent to understand.”

      makes me wonder if they have tried a pet and wether or not that wasnt just exactly the same feeling