I agree that the uncle should be giving cash, the parents and grandparents absolutely shouldn’t.

As for your other example I assume you know he likes that “Sword & Sandals” esthetic and hard cash as opposed to a Venmo and a card (which is more convenient but even less personal). Basically you took an impresonal gift of cash and made it caring by adapting it to the recipient. Which proves my point.

I don’t think we really disagree here, we’re just talking past each other a little bit.