She gained some weight but she is not fat at all!

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    9 months ago

    You (and the others who downvoted my comment) are completely missing the main point here, which is that the gf is obviously showing behavioural patterns connected to a form of eating disorder, like Anorexia and/or Bulimia.

    A woman being upset is not a trap

    Of course not. However, a conversation about “being fat”, with a person who suffers from an eating disorder is definitely a trap, as long as you are not a specialized therapist.

    viewing relationships as adversarial is setting yourself up for failure

    I view eating disorders as adversarial, not relationships. Please stop projecting your incorrect assumptions on me.

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      9 months ago

      I am on blahaj, I literally can’t downvote you.

      ‘Just don’t think about it’ is a pretty terrible way to deal with eating disorders as well. Which this might not even be the case, as there are plenty of other things that manifest in a lack of appetite, not all of which are even mental illnesses.

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        9 months ago

        Why are you ignoring the fact that OP said “She was underweight before because she hardly ate anything”? Seems like you are not arguing in good faith. I am done talking to you because you seem either naive, or even worse, pro-Anorexia/Bulimia.

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          You are inventing a reason for not eating anything when OP said nothing about that, and ignored me pointing out multiple things can cause people to lose appetite. Thanks for not subjecting me to any more of the same, at least!

          By the way, people can tell you edited your comment to try to sneakily call me pro-anorexia after I made my comment.

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            9 months ago

            I made up nothing. I simply quoted OP and everyone can see that. You on the other hand are clearly not arguing in good faith and I don´t have time for that. Blocked to prevent further animosities.