I think people who are patient and interact with children with respect and empathy is a giveaway.

  • greenteadrinker@midwest.social
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    2 years ago

    People who give others what they wish they had. Sometimes people can be bitter and envious of what others got. I think it takes being a bigger person to accept that you didn’t receive it then, and you can still give it to others.

    I’m mostly talking about things like time, attention, patience, tolerance, affection, and positive reinforcement/affirmation. Just because you had a bad time, doesn’t mean others have to experience it.

    • UngodlyAudrey🏳️‍⚧️@beehaw.org
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      2 years ago

      Yeah, sometimes people will just tear down others out of jealousy. I saw a lot of that when I was in the military. It was depressingly common to have one group leave for the day, and someone who still had work to do would call out, “Must be nice”. I always hated that. I was assigned to a submarine(which was really awful since the sub force was all male at the time and I was a closeted trans woman), everyone had it lousy. I would always think to myself, “Is it really that hard to be happy for someone, instead of being bitter that you have to stay longer”. Now, granted, there were some people who had demonstrably worse times due to workload. But that doesn’t give you carte blanche to be a drag on everyone else.