• USSMojave@startrek.website
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    1 year ago

    Yeah, just because we’re encouraged to understand our privilege doesn’t mean we’re supposed to feel guilty about it. That doesn’t serve anyone.

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      1 year ago

      “Check your privilege” has only ever meant that people want others to understand how situations and histories might be different. White guilt is a thing white people made up to make it about them.

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      1 year ago

      It’s generally just people not being able to accept being wrong about something. They take it as a personal insult and hit to their pride rather than just going oh? Verify? Oh shit, neat.

      Instead it’s I must be a piece of shit. Other people must not like me now. They must be talking about me…

      Mother fucker nobody paying attention to you but MAYBE yourself and MAYBE your closest loved ones lol.

      If you walk around in life with a chip on your back, everything becomes an insult though. It’s the literal republican modus operandi primed mostly through religion via guilt.

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        1 year ago

        Fortunately, it’s not anger in my case. It’s “just” poor self esteem and a tendency to feel guilt for things that I know (rationally, at least) aren’t my fault.

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          Yeah it’s definitely a hard habit to break. Largely depending on how you were raised with a bit of natural tendencies here and there.

          It absolutely is a mindset though. One which you can get out of given enough challenge, time, patience, and professional help if you’re not good with executive function.

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      1 year ago

      You’re completely right. It doesn’t serve anyone, but the feeling is there anyway. I have a history of feeling guilty about stuff that’s not my fault.