Killed in Bat Yam: Ukrainian girl from Odessa came to Israel for cancer treatment; Her father stayed in Ukraine to fight in its war, and grandmother Lena and her two other grandchildren - Konstantin, 9, and Ilya, 13, were killed with Nastia; Search continues in rubble for body of her mother, Maria
Please look at OPs comment, how it begins.
It aims to diminish the suffering by arguing with the (inflicted) suffering of said group/another group.
That is the definition of whataboutism.