The vet says he has a cancerous lump and will not survive any intervention, and that he was a very different dog than even from two months ago and that it was time. He has dementia, tracheal stenosis, diabetes and cataracts, and coughs a lot, so it really is time, but my ex needed to hear it from the vet, who thankfully is always her forthright helpful compassionate self.

I know the internet hates pugs, but he was a stray I fostered and then adopted, and he had a wonderful hilarious personality, was cuddly as could be, and really did very well until the last year or so.

It is the right decision without question, but it’s never any easier no matter what experience you have with it. I will miss my puppy baby so much.

  • pezhore@infosec.pub
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    2 days ago

    I’m so sorry for your loss, but it sounds like it’s time.

    I had to say goodbye to my senile, almost 13 years old Boston terrier beagle mix in 2022.

    I still miss him every day. A few things that you may want to do.

    1. It helped us to write down what his last few days were like - the long walks, visits to Home Depot, etc. We did this in an email to ourselves.
    2. After, we also wrote an email/started a thread of all our memories - what dumb things Murphy did, what we loved about him, his quirks. This has been painful to look back on, but it also keeps his memory fresh (and become less painful as time has passed).
    3. We kept his old bed around for a month+ before we felt like we could put it away - take as much time as you need.

    Lastly, fuck anyone who thinks that grief for a pet isn’t worth anything, or isn’t the same as losing a human member of your family. Our dogs are our family.

    And because I will never not share a picture of my buddy, here’s Murphy.

    • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.worldOP
      6·
      2 days ago

      I love Murphy! I’m sorry for your loss. Thankfully I have lots of Victor documented and that helps, but ugh. The dementia was really hard, it’s so hard to keep them happy and there’s times they look at you like “why am I here”. It’s very much time, but ugh my baby.