Thats true of leaders. But as a leader, it’s often beneficial to use the hate. Vlad the impaler used hate and extreme practices to instill such fear in the enemy that he is considered a defender and hero to this day.

I would say hate fueled Sherman’s march and my only lament for that is that they didn’t burn enough.

A lack of hatred towards hatred is indeed approval or support of hatred. You’re the “it’s not happening to me” person. A lack of resistance is support.