sometimes, the most valuable lessons are the harshest ones. What’s a piece of brutal, no BS advice you think every younger generation needs to hear? It could be from your own experience, something you learned the hard way, or just a tough truth no one talks about enough. Let’s hear the cold, honest reality.
To help jumpstart this community, I am crossposting posts that I like from /r/askmenover30. The original post can be found here.
You are not a good person by default. Being a good person requires work, and that work starts by understanding who you are today and ends when you die.
You are shaped in a million ways by your parents, teachers, friends, bosses, media, algorithms, influencers, etc. It is not the mark of a good person to be passively shaped by their environment into a functioning member of society.
A good person considers how they’ve been shaped and actively works to change themselves to align with their personal values. Hell, examining the hodgepodge of conflicting values that society has pushed onto them is one of the biggest parts.
It is humbling, tedious, frustrating work, and many people go their whole lives without doing it. But it’s worth it for the peace that comes in being proud of the person that you’ve made yourself into.
TL;DR: go to therapy
And your definition of a good person is what matters as “good” is relative.