You know, a lot of women praise the benefits of having a gay guy friend. I’d say that guys are starting to as well.
But you don’t see as many guys realizing how damn great a lesbian friend can be. It can, by the way, be awesome. Yeah, you still deal with some individuals not being great friends, but there’s really something special about the kind of bond you can get with someone on a different section of the attraction slider.
I can’t even put my finger on exactly what it is that makes it happen, but there’s this kind of inner vibe where there’s just enough differences, and just enough similarities that come along with the mix of cis-het male and cis-les female. That balance, when it works right can be a really deep bond that’s a goodness in life.
I was raised primarily by strong female role models, so I gravitate to a number of people that are lesbians. My time being friends with many of them have been full of some of the craziest, rowdiest moments, but also some of the closest as there have been so many ways we’ve been able to bond that just don’t seem to happen as organically as with CIS people. My lifelong best friend came out as gay a few years after college, and now his partner came out a few years after, and again, there are tons of things we can talk about that would probably be a little awkward for many of my straight guy friends.
I never thought much about it while it was all going on. It all started in the late 90s, and I was much more conservative back then, and knowing all these people and having these fun times with all of them has really been lifechanging. I can say with confidence that my life is many times better today having been friends with people from different walks of life than my own. I’d never let anyone talk crap on any of them, because no one has ever had my back as hard as most of them.
Three out of the four of my closest friends are queer women. They are all some of the most meaningful friendships I’ve had in my entire life.
I’ve struggled for most of my life because the people that usually surround me have always tried to make me be anything other who I am. When I’m talking to my close friends or queer women in general, I feel a lot more comfortable just being myself because they aren’t forcing me to be something else. I don’t feel the need to defend myself constantly. I can just be me.
In return, I treat them the same way too. They are free to be who they are. They seem to really appreciate it and let me know all the time.
Although not queer myself, I went to a queer halloween party last year simply to meet people. I ended up making friends with someone who happened to be going to the same concert as me the following the week. We’ve become such close and understanding friends since then. As I was saying bye to her this past weekend, she gave me a bone crushing hug and told me she loves me so much. Feels really amazing to have that kind of a friendship.
I’ve never experienced a closeness like that in all my life with non-queer men or women friends.
You know, a lot of women praise the benefits of having a gay guy friend. I’d say that guys are starting to as well.
But you don’t see as many guys realizing how damn great a lesbian friend can be. It can, by the way, be awesome. Yeah, you still deal with some individuals not being great friends, but there’s really something special about the kind of bond you can get with someone on a different section of the attraction slider.
I can’t even put my finger on exactly what it is that makes it happen, but there’s this kind of inner vibe where there’s just enough differences, and just enough similarities that come along with the mix of cis-het male and cis-les female. That balance, when it works right can be a really deep bond that’s a goodness in life.
I was raised primarily by strong female role models, so I gravitate to a number of people that are lesbians. My time being friends with many of them have been full of some of the craziest, rowdiest moments, but also some of the closest as there have been so many ways we’ve been able to bond that just don’t seem to happen as organically as with CIS people. My lifelong best friend came out as gay a few years after college, and now his partner came out a few years after, and again, there are tons of things we can talk about that would probably be a little awkward for many of my straight guy friends.
I never thought much about it while it was all going on. It all started in the late 90s, and I was much more conservative back then, and knowing all these people and having these fun times with all of them has really been lifechanging. I can say with confidence that my life is many times better today having been friends with people from different walks of life than my own. I’d never let anyone talk crap on any of them, because no one has ever had my back as hard as most of them.
Three out of the four of my closest friends are queer women. They are all some of the most meaningful friendships I’ve had in my entire life.
I’ve struggled for most of my life because the people that usually surround me have always tried to make me be anything other who I am. When I’m talking to my close friends or queer women in general, I feel a lot more comfortable just being myself because they aren’t forcing me to be something else. I don’t feel the need to defend myself constantly. I can just be me.
In return, I treat them the same way too. They are free to be who they are. They seem to really appreciate it and let me know all the time.
Although not queer myself, I went to a queer halloween party last year simply to meet people. I ended up making friends with someone who happened to be going to the same concert as me the following the week. We’ve become such close and understanding friends since then. As I was saying bye to her this past weekend, she gave me a bone crushing hug and told me she loves me so much. Feels really amazing to have that kind of a friendship.
I’ve never experienced a closeness like that in all my life with non-queer men or women friends.