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Goddammit. I wish I would have known this shit was ADHD before like… last year
Edit: And I wish I didn’t have to find out through fucking memes lol
Better late than never! My partner is just now figuring it out. Being aware of the behavior is a huge step forward.
For sure… Though I’ve recently found out that the medicine works, but I hate the way it makes me feel and I’d rather have zero executive functioning than to take it every day.
Everyone is different, after all you are literally adjusting the chemistry of your brain. But some people take a while to adjust to psych meds. I am very sensitive to psych meds and get all the weird side effects. It usually takes me about 3 months to let my body adjust to a new drug and get a real idea of how it’s going to make me feel. Admittedly I am taking more than just ADHD meds, but it can take a while to find the right thing. I have had many whose side effects started out sucking, but then went away or became tolerable. But even worse is the ones that start out perfect, but then slowly show their problem sides. It can be so difficult to switch when the side effect seems so minor at first but everything else is perfect.
Also, there are different meds and they can affect you differently. And there are different types of meds, some are stimulants and some are not.I’m sorry to hear it, my partner similarly doesn’t react well to some of the meds. They take strattera and it took them a few months for the side effects to subside. It never hurts to try different meds!
Welcome to the Late Diagnosis Club.
Hope you don’t join the My Parents Thought I Was But Chose To Not Do Anything Club followed by the If I’d Only Known I Wouldn’t Have Wasted So Much Of My Potential Club.
If I’d Only Known I Wouldn’t Have Wasted So Much Of My Potential Club.
I’m in this club but very much trying to leave, because I’m starting to realize “wasted potential” in itself is a toxic idea that’s been ingrained by years of teachers telling me this (with my parents doing their best to counter). That’s not to say I’m not still trying to do my best, I am, but only because I want to and because it makes me happy.
I’m pretty sure with the correct treatment when I was younger I would be ruling a small country by now. That said, I am pleased with killing it at work and being able to finally afford a house and not living in a hoarder mess.
I’m in the second one, but instead of the first one, I joined the My Parents thought I was just lazy and worthless and did everything they could to make me feel bad about it, and when that clearly didn’t work, they doubled down on the same strategy even harder, and now I am triggered just being in the same room with them from the PTSD they gave me Club. It’s honestly not a great club? I do not recommend joining.
Yeah, that club sucks. The well-worn rut of defensiveness and constantly on guard because of facing so much criticism is stress you can’t seem to escape.
I feel so validated!
IYKYK. Sorry you’re having to deal with it. How you feel is real.
@CheeseToastie Yeah, sounds about right. But being AuDHD, there’s also an extended release version of this.
-Exist
-Do nothing for several months
-Existential Dread
-Get A New Thing
-Spend several months dedicating your life to The New Thing
-Burn out and drop everything
-Bump into A Situation where you could’ve use one of The Things you’ve acquired during one of the previous cycles
-Panic and feel guilty
-Furiously get back into The Thing, dropping all other Things, including socializing and feeding yourself properly for a month or two
-Burn out and do nothing for several months
-Make a pact with yourself to never do that again
-Exist…Been there my friend…
I thought I had ADHD but RFKjr says I just need discipline, maybe I should have listened to my parents about needing discipline when I was a teen. I bet lack of discipline is why I excel in everything I do but don’t seem to do anything including things I like. Definitely, it’s lack of discipline keeping me from journaling and playing tetris or practicing guitar. It’s definitely lack of discipline that explains why I can never keep my house clean for more than a day, or why trash nests seemingly spawn around me. It’s definitely lack of discipline that makes me sit in the bathroom, next to the already running shower, trying to build up the nerve to endure the state change and just get in the shower.
It’s discipline right? Right? Because if it isn’t I’m gonna need a lot of apologies from all the folks who said it was along the way. And some fucking adderall.
Pls send help ASAP
This is ADHD? For me this is a day that ends in y.
Yeah, I grew up with a close relative that was diagnosed with ADHD, and I assumed I didn’t have it since I lacked the “hyperactive” part that I saw all the time with them.
Turns out the ‘H’ isn’t always referring to physical hyperactivity…
You might have ADHD 😏
Does your mind wander when you read?
Do you lose things frequently?
Are you losing track of time frequently?
Do you often interrupt people in conversations?
Do you have 12 projects started but nothing finished?
Does your work area look like a bomb when off?… Just some of my many varied symptoms.
I’m sorry, what were you saying?
What’s funny is I started to make the list longer and then realized I wouldn’t read it because it was too long.
When I was a kid in the 80s, they said I was “hyperactive.” I’m not sure if ADHD was a thing then.
Yes my mind does wander sometimes when I read. But to most of your other questions I think the answer is no.
I can lose track of time when I’m super focused on what I’m working on. But I imagine that’s the same for a lot of people.
Keep in mind it manifests differently for everyone. I have it pretty mildly, so it’s fairly well managed through guanfacine, a similarly mild medication, and lifestyle changes. The only reason my psychiatrist and I know I have it is it “flares up” pretty badly when I’m stressed and my life easily goes off the rails as I increasingly begin to exhibit more ADHD behavior.
It’s also possible you don’t have it as neurotypical folk experience most ADHD symptoms from time to time, just with less frequency and severity.
I’m literally reading this whilst sitting trying to convince myself to get stuff done (it has been 6 hours)
You can do it 💪
Don’t let your dreams be dreams.
Do you actually do nothing as in stand still staring at the wall with an empty mind emitting white noise or you do minor stuff that you consider as nothing?
The mind isn’t empty, it is running a mile a minute which is why I’m starting at the wall I need to hang the shelf on as I consider all the options and related times I’ve hung a shelf and maybe I need to to laundry but also a ton of other stuff that isn’t related in any way.
Don’t worry, I won’t remember any of it hours later when I give up and do something else.
This doesn’t happen all the time, but it happens way too often.
Read Lemmy.
So, more the first one with a bit of the second here and there.
I finally got diagnosed at fucking 40
Oh my. It’s like y’all are in my head
That’s a good day. On an average day an express train of thought takes me from doing nothing to and right into existential dread without intermediate stops.
I do this as well. Sometimes I challenge myself of figuring how the fuck I ended up in the dread by tying to go backwards om the train of thoughts. Sometimes I’ve managed to take each step back and figure out what started it all, a whole 17 steps back.
Totally. Only that I postponed the thing I had to do for even longer.
Your post made me realize that I postpone because I am afraid of hyperfixating. When I hyperfixate I do things that I don’t want to be do, but that have to be done to make them right.
Like I expected, when I finally did what I had to do, I found something that was not right, and spent some additional time on it without being able to let go.
Here is an older thought about it: Could it be that ADHD is an identity thing? Essentially like transsexual but for being and not sex. Hyperfocussing is like wearing a mask, not out of fear of social reactions but from the inability of maintaining my identity. I lost my day by being afraid of experiencing being-dysphoria. It only ends when the fear of the consequences of inaction are bigger than the fears of dysphoria.
Yep. I’m medicated now, and it’s helping me with making healthy routines. Chores for the kids are actually delegated at a reasonable time on weekends, I get my shit done in a reasonable time, and then have time to just chill and watch my show, do a hobby, and even spend time with my family.
If you suspect you might have ADHD, go get checked.
Why can’t I ever hyper-fixate on the thing that needs doing.
Not diagnosed with ADHD, but yes. Very, very relatable, haha.
Excuse me, I need to go buy some more mechanical keyboard switch springs
