• xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    16 hours ago

    yes because you can absolutely trust and guarantee safety amongst everyone in your polycule, and because you can totally be safe from STI’s that are transmitted by skin contact….

    you can be safer, but not safe

      • WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works
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        5 hours ago

        Trust isn’t the issue. Probability is. Even without deception, there’s a chance someone can have an STD without knowing it. And there’s a chance that std won’t show up on testing due to incubation times, dormancy phases, and false negatives.

        Imagine there is a 1% chance of your partner having an STD without knowing it. 1% doesn’t sound too bad an odds. But if you have 50 partners in an extended polycule, then the chance that at least one of them unknowingly has one is 1-(.99)^50, or 39%. Probabilities compound.

      • xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        6 hours ago

        i’ve been lied to by people i trusted many times… but i hope your ability to determine trustworthiness is perfect. mine is not.