Saying “I love you” as a reflex is an indication that you’re surrounded with love so much of the time that instead of having to consciously think about whether love should be expressed, you instead have to consciously think about whether love shouldn’t be expressed.
Feeling the need to end all conversations with “I love chocolate” likely means that you really love chocolate. Most people don’t express love so often that they do it accidentally unless they feel it so often that they’d want to express it at the end of most conversations.
Counterpoint: love deserves reinforcement, and for many people the seemingly trivial task of appending it to a verbal statement - our most basic form of communication outside facial gestures - serves well enough if you know the foundations of your love are good.
You may not see it that way and you may feel different, and that’s fine. But this is clearly an issue for you and your partner(s), not us.
You’re the one in the flippant relationship lol, do you not see how much projection you’re doing rn? You’re a goddamn overhead with the wet-erase markers
well I mean if projection is saying the way I feel then sure you can call it that. But that is really not what projection is. At the end of the day Im one of those folks who feel words mean nothing and actions mean everything. I don’t want someone to tell me they love me. I want to feel loved by them. Im lucky in that I have that but I wonder with convos like these how many actually do.
saying I love you as a reflex is not feeling love.
Saying “I love you” as a reflex is an indication that you’re surrounded with love so much of the time that instead of having to consciously think about whether love should be expressed, you instead have to consciously think about whether love shouldn’t be expressed.
It means you are surrounded by phrases of love. Love expressed so flippantly has meaning equivalent to I love chocolate.
I think you have some issues to work out, man.
Damn bro are you okay?
I think you are extrapolating a lot of information that isn’t there. You should reflect on why that is
Feeling the need to end all conversations with “I love chocolate” likely means that you really love chocolate. Most people don’t express love so often that they do it accidentally unless they feel it so often that they’d want to express it at the end of most conversations.
Counterpoint: love deserves reinforcement, and for many people the seemingly trivial task of appending it to a verbal statement - our most basic form of communication outside facial gestures - serves well enough if you know the foundations of your love are good.
You may not see it that way and you may feel different, and that’s fine. But this is clearly an issue for you and your partner(s), not us.
this I get but I do worry about those folks as I think they will fall into the trap of looking at words of love rather than actions of love.
You’re the one in the flippant relationship lol, do you not see how much projection you’re doing rn? You’re a goddamn overhead with the wet-erase markers
well I mean if projection is saying the way I feel then sure you can call it that. But that is really not what projection is. At the end of the day Im one of those folks who feel words mean nothing and actions mean everything. I don’t want someone to tell me they love me. I want to feel loved by them. Im lucky in that I have that but I wonder with convos like these how many actually do.
If that’s the way you feel, your relationship sucks.
I’ve been married close to a decade and we mean it even if it sounds casual.
I have been married 24 years so take that what you may. One reason my wife like me is because I show love more often than say it and vice versa.