my lover is a very high iq person (140) and he’s so awesome and yea has a lot of knowlegde about a lot of things, but recently i took an iq test and i got 85, it sucks, i told him that i hope that does not affect any aspect of our relationship!! and i’m not going to sugar code it but honestly i think that difference does cause a bit of trouble in our relationship because i am aware that my low iq may cause problems or it could make him feel annoyed/bothered!! what can i do to improve that?? i love him so much and i don’t want him to feel like i don’t understand him, sometiems i don’t a lot but, i always understand the general idea of the stuff he likes and i’m always seeking out more knowledge from him and the wider internet. thank you!!!
edit: i’ve always thought i was 100 or 150+ iq because i am interested in open source software, linux, foss, gnu, the fediverse, and reading, etc!! programming too
Iq means very little, other than being am idicator of how good you are at iq tests.
Probably doen’t apply to everyone, but i feel like intelligent people experience a lot of stress asociated with performing to surrounding expectations. They tend to be less stressed when hanging around people they don’t need to perform for.
In your case, ask him about it. He might feel perfectly content around you. You might even be a calming presence.
I’d say me and my partner are equals. But I imagine I would have no Issue If they were less intellectually inclined. Or more for that matter.