This sounds great (as someone sorta into this) until you realize that youre probably also someone shell just fuck and then leave. Also if every woman and or man would be like this it wouldnt be special and you wouldnt look up to it soo… yeah
Edit: after seeingnother peoples replies it seems like sex is a much less significant thing for the average person than for me. I guess this also promted people to downvote my comment but i guess thats a thing now, if your opinion differs you downvote. Respect to the people who actually share their opinion instead of doing that.
Also if every woman and or man would be like this it wouldnt be special and you wouldnt look up to it soo… yeah
I eat food every day, but there are also plenty of meals I’ll remember fondly and think of as special.
I like hosting dinner parties where I cook for my friends and family. I can assure you that even though I do this for a lot of loved ones, they generally still appreciate each dinner I make. It is still perceived fundamentally differently from a commercial transaction (like buying takeout from a licensed restaurant).
It doesn’t just apply to food, either. Sometimes it feels good to have someone do something for you, where the exclusivity or rarity of that act doesn’t even factor into whether it feels meaningful.
So no, your hypothesis of “if everyone was fucking all the time, fucking wouldn’t feel special” doesn’t seem to hold up in comparison to other things in life.
A relationship is not special because you fuck. It is special because you’re with a person you mesh well with. No amount of fucking will save a relationship that is not built on mutual compatibility.
Yeah thats what im saying. A relationship is both physical and emotional(for me at least). Theres a reason why most couples move in together, sleep together, etc. Youre not just fucking the person but their soul as well(literally what my english teacher said💀, but i agree).
Right. You can have all of one without the other, or you can have a mix of both. Someone with >100 partners is communicating that they’re probably more interested in a physical relationship than a deep emotional one.
Nah. Knowing that someone has fucked 100 people, what this 4chan user is talking about, just tells you that that person does not view sex and relationships as a single thing.
You only get a body count that high by doing one-offs, where you are just looking for sex and aren’t trying to turn it into a relationship. That tells you nothing about how good a partner they will be once they actually enter one.
This assumption that sex should only happen between partners in a relationship is exactly why people jump into self-destructing relationships instead of waiting for a person they actually vibe with.
If it is normalized to be a person who sleeps with a lot of people. Then there is no reason to lie about it. So the thing you’re concerned about would happen less and not more. Unless you intentionally went after people who publicly say they like open relationships. In which case it’s a skill issue on your part.
This sounds great (as someone sorta into this) until you realize that youre probably also someone shell just fuck and then leave. Also if every woman and or man would be like this it wouldnt be special and you wouldnt look up to it soo… yeah
Edit: after seeingnother peoples replies it seems like sex is a much less significant thing for the average person than for me. I guess this also promted people to downvote my comment but i guess thats a thing now, if your opinion differs you downvote. Respect to the people who actually share their opinion instead of doing that.
I eat food every day, but there are also plenty of meals I’ll remember fondly and think of as special.
I like hosting dinner parties where I cook for my friends and family. I can assure you that even though I do this for a lot of loved ones, they generally still appreciate each dinner I make. It is still perceived fundamentally differently from a commercial transaction (like buying takeout from a licensed restaurant).
It doesn’t just apply to food, either. Sometimes it feels good to have someone do something for you, where the exclusivity or rarity of that act doesn’t even factor into whether it feels meaningful.
So no, your hypothesis of “if everyone was fucking all the time, fucking wouldn’t feel special” doesn’t seem to hold up in comparison to other things in life.
Doesn’t matter had sex.
A relationship is not special because you fuck. It is special because you’re with a person you mesh well with. No amount of fucking will save a relationship that is not built on mutual compatibility.
Right, and someone with >100 partners kinda outs themselves as either incapable of or uninterested in a stable relationship.
Or maybe they’re perfectly capable of a stable relationship, they just also enjoy casual sex. Maybe even at the same time in a non-monogamous context.
Yeah thats what im saying. A relationship is both physical and emotional(for me at least). Theres a reason why most couples move in together, sleep together, etc. Youre not just fucking the person but their soul as well(literally what my english teacher said💀, but i agree).
Right. You can have all of one without the other, or you can have a mix of both. Someone with >100 partners is communicating that they’re probably more interested in a physical relationship than a deep emotional one.
Nah. Knowing that someone has fucked 100 people, what this 4chan user is talking about, just tells you that that person does not view sex and relationships as a single thing.
You only get a body count that high by doing one-offs, where you are just looking for sex and aren’t trying to turn it into a relationship. That tells you nothing about how good a partner they will be once they actually enter one.
This assumption that sex should only happen between partners in a relationship is exactly why people jump into self-destructing relationships instead of waiting for a person they actually vibe with.
If it is normalized to be a person who sleeps with a lot of people. Then there is no reason to lie about it. So the thing you’re concerned about would happen less and not more. Unless you intentionally went after people who publicly say they like open relationships. In which case it’s a skill issue on your part.