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Is anybody here particularly good with character design or color theory? I’m trying to figure out what colored clothing/armor would go well with colored hair, and I always tend to fall on whites/greys/blacks.
I’m specifically dealing with moderately saturated red hair, although I’ll have to deal with other colors in the future.
The more I think about it, the less I care about changing all my documents and shit. The name I use for paperwork basically never comes up in normal interactions, and when it does I genuinely just find it funny. Like, a security guard one time who said “huh, thats a weird name to give to a girl, what was your mom thinking!!” or an old ass man who looked at me like Im an alien when
and he looked up my registration. Maybe I’m stupid cuz it might put me in danger or something, but after 4 ish years of being stealth, I don’t even care about being outed anymore. Actually, I kinda wish I was more visually trans sometimes, because I know for a fact some of the people I work with and see every day don’t know any trans people (or at least don’t know that they know) and only hear about them on fox news and shit. Anyways… Ramble over, thanks for reading it :Dmention of transphobic "friends"
I expressed frustration that some people I used to associate myself with cared more about the shape of my hardware than me as a person and was told that a big problem in left wing circles is ascribing malicious intent to people with good intentions.
I’m sorry but what good intentions can I ascribe to transphobes? I have explicitly told every person who had a bad reaction to me coming out to them that if they asked me why I’d chosen to transition I’d tell them, and not one of them have asked. They objectively do not care to understand me. What good intentions can I possibly ascribe to a person who intentionally invalidates me knowing it hurts me?
religious transphobia
“God doesn’t make mistakes”
I’m not religious anymore but I’ve never understood this one. It argues the exact opposite conclusion than it’s traditionally used to argue.
It’s a fact that trans people exist. If God exists and doesn’t make mistakes, he made trans people, and therefore transness can’t be a mistake. If God doesn’t make mistakes, trans people are beautiful. I don’t understand how this could possibly be argued any other way
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They don’t even believe this shit. There are so many biological mistakes. All the way from glasses to disabilities. Every day babies are born who just suffer and die. Is that intentional then, does god create babies that are incompatible with life?
I’m not christian (any more) but it seems a lot better to say god doesn’t micromanage our lives like that.
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“God doesn’t make mistakes - except for my nose job, that was a mistake I’m allowed to have corrected”
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If you want to be a God type person or have an ally who is a God type person and that reasoning bothers you, then I like the trans guy on tumblr or Twitter who said “God created trans people for the same reason He created grapes and not wine - so that we may participate in the act of creation.”
“Trans people are being tricked by Satan” or something. “We’re trying to save them from an eternity in hell” is probably what they would say when pressed on why they’re so hateful.
hawk you i won’t tuah you tell me
delet this
it’s crazy that literally everyone who ever watched animorphs or read the books is transgender now. every single one
I’m not beating the allegations
soon
I think one of the main reasons why trans rights are such a common litmus test is because it demonstrates how easily someone is willing to live-and-let-live, and to have space for others.
The reality is literally the other way around of
reactionary talking point
“forcing their way of life onto us”.
If someone says “I am a X” and a dweller responds with “no, you are not a X, and here’s why I am so certain about that as a third party”, that is an act of forcing their worldview/lifestyle onto other people.
She judge my slop too harshly
What if instead of hexbear it was hexcare for your trans comrades?
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what if instead of hexbear it was hexsquare and it was six squares
omg six squares makes a cube 😲
What if instead of hexbear it was sexbear and…a-and…um…
what if instead of hexbear it was specsbear and it was exactly the same but the logo was wearing some cute little glasses
my own maladaptive processes
I hate my brain sometimes. I tried to express to someone who called me pretty that they were also attractive and was hit with overwhelming waves of feeling predatory for even finding someone attractive. I hate my brain. Idk if i even want to fuck this person, i think i just want to be their friend, but i still feel predatory for even finding them attractive in the first place, let alone that i expressed that to them.
I hate my internalized transphobia.
Having to misgender and deadname yourself at the marriage office sucks
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I love winter, had such a nice soft blue morning glow with a gentle snowfall while I was walking to school today. Just wish I had more fem winter clothes to wear so I can be as pretty as everything else.
I never used tiktok before but some of these gals on 小红书 have really cool winter outfits and now I wanna up my fashion game.
My metabolic panel results are back and everything is within “normal” range (except CO2 which was low? IDK what that’s supposed to mean). AST and chloride are also kinda high but still within normal range
Honestly the most shocking thing is that my glucose level is 84 even though my diet is painfully amerikkkan and I come from a family (extended, not just immediate) of diabetics
I wouldn’t worry too much about hypocapnia (low CO2) without any other problems. You can get it by focusing your breathing and breathing deeply (or hyperventillating). If it worries you you can ask a doctor about it. Chloride helps shift CO2 to lungs. Both of low CO2 and low chloride can be signs of Addisons disease (especially with lower glucose) or lung issues, but seriously if you feel fine don’t chase after or get anxious about lab values.
thank you for your input, I guess I might be a bit neurotic about my health since for years I’ve known in the back of my head that I’m doing a bad job of taking care of myself but tried to ignore it until recently. It’s nice to know that even though there are things I need to improve on, I’m not like, on the verge of dying or anything.
No, if you had something wrong you should have checked you’d probably feel sick and would’ve wanted to go to the hospital despite the cost before getting funky lab values by chance. They aren’t perfect there’s a little up and down each test could be. For all we know if you went back your lab values would all be WDL this time anyway. I wouldn’t sweat funky labs unless you’re having symptoms and feel sick. The only big one for your lytes before HRT is potassium anyway (if the plan is for you to start spiro) and you said that one was fine.
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