• stealthnerd@lemmy.world
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      Lose the defeatist attitude . You’re only 31 years old. You’ve got over three decades to save for retirement and you don’t need a degree to get places in life. Start saving now, even if it’s a tiny amount. Just be consistent and increase contributions as you get raises or better opportunity. It adds up and having something is a lot better than having nothing. Don’t give up before you get started.

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        having something is a lot better than having nothing

        Eating cat food is better than starving, sure, but I’d rather just save myself the trouble with the 9mm retirement package.

        I can’t save money. I’m spinning my wheels paycheck-to-paycheck, I have no life, I have no friends, I almost fucking died when I collapsed at work from heat exhaustion, the climate is getting more extreme every damn year, everything is too expensive and only getting more expensive, I live in hell and I am sick and FUCKING tired of Dems telling me my shitty fucking life is worth living.

        Why the fuck can’t you ever acknowledge that life is hard for people? Why do you have to belittle our suffering and tell us we’re worried about nothing and that if we really tried we could make our lives worth living? Is this funny to you? Do you like to make me angry?

        Maybe I won’t make it to 65! Maybe they’ll make it illegal to be trans in my shithole state and I’ll be retiring early.

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          Life is hard, it’s always been hard. Some of the problems we face today may be new but having to push forward and survive despite adversity is certainly not. Throwing in the towel and giving up because of the problems you face today and the problems you “might” face tomorrow is not the way to live.

          You can overcome, you can save, you can improve your life and it can be worth living even if it feels absolutely impossible right now. People tell you this because it’s true, because they’ve been through hard times, they’ve battled depression, and they’ve come out the other side with an appreciation and love for life despite it all.

          I encourage you to seek support, there are many people out there who are currently going through and have gone through similar struggles. I wish you the best of luck and hope you get through this and can share you story with others one day.

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            Survivorship bias.

            The people who went through hard times and came out the other side are the ones that are still alive. Millions don’t. They just die, either because the literally can’t afford to live or because they decide to make it quick with a gun or an overdose. You’re discounting all the many many people who have died and just focusing on the lucky ones.

            Also? I need to make something clear.

            I don’t want to die I don’t want to die fuck fuck fuck I don’t want to die! Stop fucking telling me to seek therapy for depression, I’m not depressed I’m absolutely terrified!

            You think you’re giving some kind of sage advice from personal experience, but all I hear is “your problems aren’t a big deal, I would know, so suck it up buttercup!” It’s degrading, demeaning, and infuriating! You’re basically telling me I’m a stupid child that doesn’t know how good I have it and hasn’t grown up enough to overcome her problems with hard work and gumption.

            I am a fully grown adult and I know how hopeless my life is. I can’t save money, don’t you fucking dare tell me I can, I’ve done my finances and went over the numbers enough times to know its absolutely hopeless. Therapy isn’t going to make the numbers different, so stop dismissing my legitimate material fears. Stop gaslighting me and telling me my problems aren’t real.

            You are a bad person.