The reply that’s like “it’s not homophobia, I just prefer a masculine man, and a man who is capable of attraction to another man is less masculine” is killing me.
I’m sorry, how is “same sex attraction makes you less of a man” not homophobia? Or I guess the real question is how can someone who isn’t openly bigoted, who recognizes that homophobia is a thing to distance oneself from, incapable of seeing that that’s obviously homophobia?
The focus on the open fear/hatred part of homophobia and ignoring that having a subtle and persistent discomfort at the thought of two men being physically intimate is also included in that term as a shield for their homophobia goes a long way.
The reply that’s like “it’s not homophobia, I just prefer a masculine man, and a man who is capable of attraction to another man is less masculine” is killing me.
I’m sorry, how is “same sex attraction makes you less of a man” not homophobia? Or I guess the real question is how can someone who isn’t openly bigoted, who recognizes that homophobia is a thing to distance oneself from, incapable of seeing that that’s obviously homophobia?
They know they are homophobic. They are just trying to deflect the label.
This is masc gay/bi erasure.
The focus on the open fear/hatred part of homophobia and ignoring that having a subtle and persistent discomfort at the thought of two men being physically intimate is also included in that term as a shield for their homophobia goes a long way.