• Lussy [any, hy/hym]@hexbear.net
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    I fucking hate servers, man. I fucking hate dining out literally because of servers. I feel I have to do their fucking job, placate them, and teach them hospitality the entire time just so they won’t treat me like shit. And yet every time I’m compelled to leave them a 20% tip.

    I would rather fetch my own food and glass of water than have to deal with them. For every rude customer these people have to deal with, there’s 10 others like in the pic who just paid to have them dump their daily traumas on them

    • ChestRockwell [comrade/them, any]@hexbear.net
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      I think you’re wildly underestimating the amount of assholes servers deal with. Especially women.

      Just tip the 20%, and be mad they aren’t paid a fair wage. Getting mad about rude servers is really reactionary.

      Obviously tipping is evil, but remember refusing to tip is not praxis citations-needed

        • ChestRockwell [comrade/them, any]@hexbear.net
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          Racism is not the same as trauma dumping. Obviously if someone is blatantly racist or sexist you can withhold your tip. But complaining about having to tip and tying that to the _qualty of service _ is the issue here.

          Complain about the low wages they’re paid (in many states submininum), but getting mad about tipping in this way is a bad look, especially when your post doesn’t mention anything beyond the pale. Also, it doesn’t change that servers should pool tips, tip out to back of house, and unionize. Fundamentally though, we can’t withhold tips systematically to achieve increased wages. So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.

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            So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.

            Yeah, that guilt tripping won’t work on me, I always tip. If I were to withhold tips every time I was being given bad service because of my race, I would never tip.

    • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]@hexbear.net
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      Hmmph. I see you’ve edited this comment once. Do it again, but just edit it to say “i never waited tables before.” and save everyone here that second of translation time.