Chivalry has long been a topic of debate. Some argue it’s an outdated concept that reinforces gender stereotypes, while others believe it’s a timeless display of respect and kindness. In a world striving for equality, where do we draw the line between traditional gestures and modern values?

Have we lost the essence of chivalry, or has it simply transformed into something different? Is it still important for men to hold doors open, pay for dates, or offer their coats? Or do those actions come off as patronizing?

I want to hear your opinions! Do you see chivalry as an essential part of relationships today, or do you think it’s time to move on from those old norms?

  • rhacer@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    26 days ago

    I’m old, so I’m betting the response may differ based on age. My wife and my teenage daughter both wait for me to open doors for them. When we are walking, I walk curb side. When there are automatic doors, I wait so they can enter first.

  • lath@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    26 days ago

    Chivalry was an idealistic fantasy from the start. Tales of knights and nobles, of how they should be or how they were in our imagination.

    As a code of conduct however, it’s something to aspire towards. Those who focus on who’s allowed to do what and not on the acts themselves doesn’t understand chivalry or merely quibble for the sake of quibbling. It’s not that chivalry is dead or that it’s something reserved exclusively for men, the point of it is aspiration to a higher state of self, whoever that self might be. Exclusivity is the wrong direction.

    Chivalry uplifts oneself and uplifts those who cannot uplift themselves. Anything else and you’ve strayed from the path.