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  • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    4 months ago

    whoa yeah pain tolerance is such an interesting topic - i know it’s mentioned in some of the autism-specific books I read as well but I imagine even outside of ND people (not implying that you are or aren’t ND of course) there’s variation.

    s3x

    It is funny to me how much kink stuff comes up regularly in books I read about autism as soon as they start to intersect with queer works. I’ve always had a sense that queer communities had a closer relation to kink, but Devon Price (in Unmasking Autism) includes this quote (and I believe he talks about it in the first person as well):

    “What most normal, kind of vanilla people don’t understand,” Tisa says, “is that the kink world is just full of Autistic nerds. People think it’s this scary, intense weird thing and it’s like…just a bunch of nerds learning about different kinds of rope and stimming by getting flogged and shit.”

    (from Chapter 7. Cultivating Autistic Relationships)

    I never thought about it in this light before - but there seems to be overlap here between queer, ND, and kink, and I think that that unique relationship to pain is at the center of it.