I’m marking this as NSFW because I’m not super sure if this counts as discussing dysphoria. I don’t exactly know a lot about this if I’m being entirely honest. Feel free to tell me if this would have been fine or not :)

I’ve always considered myself a cis dude. I feel relatively comfortable as a dude I think. But there’s a lot of stuff that has me wondering things. For example, like a year ago I told one of my friends “Being a man is cool and all, but if I was given the reins at character creation, I would have chosen to be a woman.” That friend told me that was not very cis of me to say, and I kinda just wrote it off, but I still hold to that take as the way I feel. When I am falling asleep and I’m sort of day dreaming, I choose to daydream about the adventures of a female character I’ve invented. When I play video games, I almost always choose the female option if it’s given, because I found it’s easier for me to get into the story that way.

However, I feel totally fine being a guy. So like I don’t know if I’m gaslighting myself here, one way or the other. It’s kinda a thing where there’s a possibility I might be trans, but if I were to actually do it, I can’t tell if my life would get better or worse. I don’t think I would feel safe being trans in my area of the world, for example. So it’s like sure I might have chosen the female build in the game of life, but that’s not what RNG gave me, and maybe I’m okay with that?

  • fracture [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    4 months ago

    i feel you. we get the common narrative that being trans is like, rife with suffering due to gender dysphoria. and while that’s certainly true for some trans folks, there’s a lot of others who are just sort of… fine?

    the key thing to think about here is that gender feelings come in negative and positive flavors. so you might be on the low dysphoria side, but you never know, expressing yourself more femininely might make you happier

    it’s hard to know without experimenting, though. you could try (even in this thread) having people refer to you with she/her pronouns and descriptions. you could also try it anonymously in other online spaces. or you could try different clothing / nail polish / etc

    also, that said, maybe you end up not liking it, or maybe the safety factor really weighs on you. your gender is yours to discover and decide! hopefully this helps you with that a little bit